when you are arguing but then other person claims to have agreed the whole time and asking why you are acting like there's a disagreement (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

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When I challenge something the other person said then they get upset and we start arguing. But then they change their position to agree with me. And claim to have held the same position as I do from the start.

So now I am the asshole for arguing when we agree on everything!!

Everybody has ADHD and I don't think it's on purpose. I just won the argument very thoroughly and this is what it looks like. I feel like I have to get a written record of what the other person is saying before I respond so they don't accuse me of starting an argument over literally nothing.

(And I have 3rd party witness who confirms my view of the situation is not skewed.)

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[-] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

I understand completely. I'm the same way. Just gotta let that shit go. It's only as important as you want it to be.

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