Speaking as a bi/pan person myself, why is it important what kind of men you like? Like, feminine men are a preference of yours and that's fine: it's a preference. Just like you can have a preference for jock-ish ripped people or for pasty lean guys. If you're attracted to them, you're attracted to them.
For example, I like men that have similar political beliefs as I do, that are a little more alternative-leaning, and if they're vegan, I might just lose it already lol. The rest is pretty irrelevant. Don't get me wrong - I'll know if I find a man attractive based on looks. But the three other points are more important to me, so they'll usually make the person more attractive to me as a result. I could see myself engaging with them one way or another. Know what I mean?
You shouldn't have to feel bad about having a preference is all I'm trying to say. And it's not a cop out either. The good thing about dating and queerness is that you don't have to settle for someone you think you should settle for because of preconceived societal norms but you actually get to choose.
Just a couple thoughts of mine, hope it helps someway. :) ✨
Preach. The amount of mental gymnastics displayed by omnis and carnies should make it an Olympic sport. Cognitive dissonance at its finest