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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

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  2. Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
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This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.

We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶

EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.

I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.

My blood pressure too high rn.

EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.

Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices

The rest of Lemmy:

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago

Thank you for bringing more spotlight on this issue.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (7 children)

It’s not good, but that’s why I generally keep it super simple. Makeup, fashion, hobbies, if I’m going to participate lol. Nothing remotely political. In fact - much like online video games, I have other accounts where I don’t reveal my gender or I’ll even talk like a dude on purpose. I already know we’re vastly outnumbered here, so I don’t care to invite mean comments from men. Big kudos to any fighting sisters out there, but I don’t want that stress in my life.

Maybe I should start treating this place more like my Tumblr and just post pretty pictures I like without giving a fuck lol

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago

Pls don't white Knight guys, it doesn't help here

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago (6 children)

I have a technical question: is it not possible to set up a community that is "member-only posting" in Lemmy? (Genuine question, I have no idea. I don't run an instance or a community.)

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Lemmy has a wide variety of chauvinists who think they're as left as it gets.

hexbear.net local was actually a great mental health break compared to any version of lemmy

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I would just delete my Lemmy account entirely if I weren't disabled and barely able to leave the house. There basically aren't any non misogynistic places for me to hang out.
As tough a job as it's gotta be to moderate this community, I'm glad this space exists so I have somewhere I feel at least semi safe to be.
Also, blocking every popular instance except blahaj drastically cuts down on the misogyny you encounter, especially if you use an app like connect which let's you block every user of an instance as well as the content of it (as opposed to lemmy's built in blocking which only blocks the content and not the users.)

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I think the only way to have a non-misogynistic place is to go to an old-school forum without "federation". That way you don't have the drive-by randos popping in to spout bullshit about how it's "misandry" to say "please guys, this is just our space, you can go literally anywhere else".

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Lemmy in and of itself is very toxic, hostile, negative, and filled with extremists and thrives on drama. I've been on lemmy on and off for 5 years, and that's not something I see changing.

Having said that, I would say the best route, is to just ignore any men who are in the women's community. The mods seem to do a really good job at it keeping them out

Lemmy fosters negativity and I just don't see that ever going away unfortunately. Just work around it, that's what I do.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Any system that has visible scores that people vote to get is going to foster negativity. The Original Sin of online spaces was assuming that "popular" is "good".

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