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I think burden is the wrong word. It implies an overall negative effect on life, like saying that playing a sport is a burden because you have to dedicate time and energy to it. Yes, my daughter does take up a huge part of my life and I've had to give up hobbies in order to make time for her.
Responsibility and commitment, yes.
Burden, no.
I don't want children, but I wish I would know how to handle a child so I can help out family in case needed.
You might want to take a look at The Montessori Child. It's a book aimed at parents to make early childhood the best it can be for the kids.
I've heard of the name before. Never knew what it was about. Sounds like a good read!
Just ask the family member that you want to help what you should do. If the kids are young they like to talk your ear off or play. Many a kid used me as a make shift tree to climb on lol
What is your definition of burden?
To make things much harder/difficult than if it wasn't.
Ok, what things are much harder / difficult for you?
Can I get the Cliff Notes version please, I don't feel like going through all the steps.
I'm just trying to understand your POV, not trying to make a point here.
that’s because the word “burden” carries a negative connotation with it, implying that it’s something you’d rather not have to be burdened with.
ideally, you would see your kids as a commitment or responsibility rather than a burden.
Definitely due to the negative image of the word for some people and I guess a sentence could be crafted to make something like saying kids are a burden to make it sound cheerful and some people would be fooled by it lol
It depends on how self centered you are. It's like that song "He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother" by The Hollies. It applies to children too.
The road is long With many a winding turn That leads us to who knows where? Who knows where? But I'm strong Strong enough to carry him He ain't heavy, he's my brother
So on we go His welfare is my concern No burden is he to bear We'll get there For I know He would not encumber me He ain't heavy, he's my brother If I'm laden at all I'm laden with sadness That everyone's heart Isn't filled with the gladness Of love for one another
It's a long, long road From which there is no return While we're on the way to there Why not share? And the load Doesn't weigh me down at all He ain't heavy, he's my brother
Perhaps but it is also unhealthy to think that way. Selfless people tend to get taken advantage of and that it in itself is a big burden. It made for good lyrics back in the time of love and peace though.