Relationship Advice

So, our sister (14F) has a school counselor, I believe, in her school. She is going to see her again this year. (We use we because we're plural).

The counselor says she cannot affirm the identities of people who are LGBTQ+, such as gay, bi, or under the trans umbrella. She also believes that being transgender is linked to mental illness and that she can't affirm people who are trans because it will "make their mental health worse" or something. The host is transmasc and when she referred to him as her brother, who happens to be trans, she said that he was really a girl and that in 2 years, he would "grow out of it".

In my opinion, it sounds unprofessional but I can't talk to anyone I know because they would agree with the counselor.

It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn't know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.

Sometimes he doesn't like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn't like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can't do much of anything or talk right now because he's very depressed.

He's not like himself, and it's sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can't show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn't know if we should date.

My girlfriend says she doesn't like that I don't work and don't do anything to "develop myself". I have passive income that's more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn't want to get a job because I don't have one, and that annoys her that I'll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.

I told her that I'm not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I'm just sitting at home.

I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.

I told her that I'm willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.

I'm assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?

I hate this. So I (18FtM) have a BF (24M) and he has been showing me less affection and not really taking an interest in my things or what I want to do. He doesn't really like my interests but it's okay, we've been getting along. Sometimes, he doesn't even know if he wants to be with me, but it's okay.

Meanwhile, I just met this guy (19M) earlier today and we're really hitting it off, although we just met. I'm starting to like him and IDK what to do because I like my boyfriend too and probably like him more.

I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I'm a bit sad but he doesn't want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he's not lonely, but he doesn't know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. "I love you" one minute, "let's break up" the next. My mom says I'm being played, IDK.

I don't even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn't care about my interests or what I want. I've tried talking to him, he says it's the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that's not enough. I don't know anymore. Just venting, ugh.

Hey all, hope everyone is doing well.

I’m curious if anyone out there has made a conscious decision to not date or be in a relationship anymore.

If so, what was your rationale? Do you feel it was the right decision? If you’re currently considering it, why?

My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents' job to provide for the children. They shouldn't see children as retirement plan.

My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can't stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)

What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.

She needs to stop pressing my button.

I'm not really into trans people, so I only date cis men. Not trans men, not nonbinary people, and not women of any kind. However, my former boyfriend is now my girlfriend, and IDK how to tell her I don't like women without her taking it the wrong way.

I wrote:

Hey, L,

I know you're probably asleep, but I kind of needed to talk about something. I want you to know that I fully support you coming out as trans. I think it's good that you're finally your true self. However, I wanted to say that I'm straight. I'm, unfortunately, not that into women, which you are. I'm sorry, it's just my preference. Know, please, that we can still be friends and I can support your true womanly self along the way, but I'm not interested in women and I can't keep dating someone and lying about how I feel.

I hope you understand, E 🙂

my bf insinuates we break up or saying he can't show affection for me, bringing up breakups, etc. he also seems kinda out of it a lot.

he'll say he's uncomfortable in the relationship (uncomfortable dating, not because of me, i don't think) or wants to make sure he'll be good for me but then says he doesn't wanna talk about it or just brushes it off and says he'll continue to date me and just deal with it because he likes me and without me, he'll have no one.

I'm fully aware that only I myself can decide whether or not I'm bi, and I know I probably will eventually, but I recently broke up with my girlfriend because I realized her gender wasn't that attractive to me, and I wanted a boyfriend. Not a girlfriend. Men, I definitely prefer, and they're more attractive to me.

I thought she was attractive to me, but I view her as more of a sister or friend, which we are now (friends). Can someone help me out, please? I don't want to claim to be something if I'm not, but I'll still be an ally if it turns out I'm straight. (I'm a nonbinary genderfluid person so I'll still be LGBT).

i've posted here before. i'm in an mlm relationship with my boyfriend of only 3 months. he struggles with depression and is probably addicted to video games as his coping mechanism. he said he didn't know if he still loved me last night and that he didn't know if we should even be dating because people would see him as a bad bf.

he also said that most of the time, he feels excited and happy to see me and hear from me as i'm the perfect bf, but sometimes he feels nothing for me due to his depression or stress and that while he usually bounces back to being happy again, he knows in his heart he likes me. he says he wants to stay with me and doesn't want me to break up. i don't wanna have to either.

he also says that he can't feel love for me like he once could with his exes issac and gabriel due to trauma, although he still loves me. he barely makes time for me. sometimes he's busy, which i get, but for the remaining time, he has time but spends 99% of it on playing games and doesn't even "have time" to play games with me because he tends to put his interests first. he also said that he was a horrible bf, and that makes me sad, because he really isn't. he just isn't affectionate even if i ask him to because it's "the way he is".

i've mostly heard from others that his love for me is platonic or that he does have feelings for me, but doesn't know what he wants.

he says he wants to stay but then he said he doesn’t know if he has feelings for me and if we should date, then he says he really likes me and wants to date, and when i asked him for clarification he just told me he wants to sleep.

he doesn't wanna end things either but it makes me sad sometimes how he acts and what he says

(i’m going to sleep too, will answer in the morning)

My friend who I post about, the problem is that she wants to be this great person who everyone worships and wants to be a symbol of the world and her country, etc. She always talks about it and when I tell her that I'm a normal person who's never achieved that either, she goes on about how her friends are all famous and she's not and how she wants to be worshipped but doesn't think she can achieve it and doesn't do anything to achieve it.

She constantly wants reassurance that she'll be worshipped by everyone and very beautiful.

My fiancé is convinced that his friend absolutely despises him and doesn’t care and my sister is convinced our grandmother doesn’t care about her. I don’t know what to do because they both are insistent this person absolutely hates them and won’t listen to their side, especially my sister. My sister gets verbally violent and angry, and threatens me because she doesn’t wanna hear the other side.

i posted this to get any advice i can get. he and i (both men) have only been together for 3 months but i really love him and want to support him. he's had a hard life and struggles with mental health and always feeling empty or depressed. sometimes, i watch his streams and ask about the game he's playing, and i don't even mind that he plays video games to cope or plays them at all, but he barely talks to me. we are long-distance, too, so i can't go visit him in-person. he doesn't really have time to talk due to playing his game and doesn't wanna stop and be affectionate or talk or anything when he's busy with the game. he does it constantly to the point where literally all he does is game and we barely talk from it, idk what to do.

I am 27 years old and I am a single mother of a 12 year old son (Yes I had him at 15). I have been single for a few years now ever since I left my son’s biological father who used to abuse me physically/sexually. He developed alcohol problems later in our relationship and he could barely keep a job, and he ended up developing extreme anger issues as a result. His abuse was mostly behind closed doors and never in front of my son. A few years later now, he calls me from another number explaining how he finished rehab, meets with a therapist weekly, and meditates every morning. He apologized a ton and he only asked to meet with my son and I in a casual environment to check up on us. (He explicitly said he doesn’t expect me to forgive him). I have not and will never forgive him, nor will I ever re-enter a relationship with him, but he does sound like a different person, so should I meet with him?

So my (24F) friend Jaiden (24F) has come from, according to her, an abusive family in Asia. We are online friends but don't know each other in real life. She wants to be the greatest person alive and constantly talks about how she wants to be this very great, multitalented person who's an actress, model, fantastic artist, etc. and how she wants to be famous but then talks about how she's horrible and will never be this all the time and IDK how to help anymore. I listen but she always asks me if I think she can be this person.

Been struggling alot recently. . Trying to get over someone special and friends tell me "she's just another girl". I get they mean well, but sometimes she isn't just another girl. How do you convince yourself it isn't the end?

my bf of almost three months (we've been friends for about a year or two) is always feeling stressed, depressed, or empty. i want to help him, so im just there with him and remind him that i'm there even when he doesn't feel like talking or we don't have much to say.

due to his feelings, he also doesn't know what he wants, and while he loves me, he doesn't know if he wants to talk to me and be around me or not. it makes me really sad, he's also had a bad childhood. i wanna be there for him but he also doesn't know what he wants and i feel sad thinking about and worrying about how sad he is.

he's been reading my messages and not replying or being offline more than usual.

I once posted in this community about an incident with the HVAC repair guy that nearly upended our relationship. (TW b/c there is a description of self harm) We stuck it out since then. Went to couples therapy, etc. It helped for a while, but at some point it ran its course.

Today, we're worse off than we were before therapy. I'm so exhausted. I feel tense and like I have to walk on eggshells around her. I really thought she was the one, and now I just don't know what to think anymore.

How do you know when it's time for things to end? I'm worried it'll be a terrible mistake to end things, but at the same time, it might be for the best.

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I'm currently dating a woman long-distance. She lives in Poland. I thought I liked her romantically, but I think I just liked having a friend who cares about me. I view her as more like a sister and at this point, she's part of our family. However, I don't think I like women or at least definitely prefer men, and I want a man to go out with. How do I politely break up with her after all this? Is it worth it?

I'm (18F) personally not sad that my S/O (17M) wants to focus more on his studies. In fact, I'm happy for him and want to encourage him. Plus, I will focus on my studies, friends, loved ones, hobbies, etc.

But we can't talk much because he needs to do his schoolwork for his last year of high school. How can we make a relationship work without much talking? I asked him what we could do and he had no idea.