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No one is entitled to attention, and sometimes people need to take a breather for their own mental health.
That’s the same talking points the alt-right uses and we don’t tolerate it.
And I’ve been on the Internet long enough to watch so-called “progressive” spaces get hijacked by the right wing under the guise of “free speech”.
When a culture grows toxic, it’s simply toxic no matter their talking points.
So the fact people have the power to block entire instances at their discretion, this is a good thing.
You are not entitled to my attention, nor am I entitled to yours.
You have freedom of speech. I also have the freedom to walk away from your speech and listen to someone else.
People need to know this feature exists and that it’s a good thing.
They've literally been banging the freeze-peach button constantly. Every single time there's consequences for their actions for a decade or two now. Where have you been?
It's not my concern if you decide to continue self-sabotaging. That's on you. You're definitely not helping yourself and not fostering any actual discussion that's for sure. You must be an Anarchist ironically. Just out for chaos. And not for Mutual Aid and understanding.
You're the only one insulting yourself. The toxicity is heavily attached to you. A lot of the rest of us are having a fine conversation.
I do not think it’s a good idea to isolate people in cults in their own echo chambers… although my faith in humanity and basic decency has seen better days, I still believe good examples matter.
Cults aren’t isolated by others. They self-isolate.
A user blocking an instance does not block the users from that instance from interacting with the user who blocked.
It's not well explained, but my understanding is that an instance block just prevents communities from that instance, and posts made by users on thay instance, from showing for the user that blocked the instance. Comments from users of that instance still show for the blocking user, and the block is one way anyway.
Folks like you and the hundred other people also "just asking questions" or playing devils advocate" and expecting trans people to engage in a debate as to whether or not we actually deserve equal rights is exactly why this shit never works.
It's interesting to you because it's purely intellectual. To the person having to endlessly argue that they do in fact deserve equal rights, it's a shit fucking experience that we actively seek to disengage from when possible, because it's all around us, all the time.
The first half of your post is you talking about trauma you’ve received from other people, telling you that you’re wrong/evil/broken/perverted etc.
The second half of your post is explaining how you think it’s ok for you to do the same thing to others, because you do it “for the right reasons”
When you confront a bigot with transphobia pushed to the extreme, what you do is add to the trauma that every trans person already has to deal with daily. You don’t magically convert someone from bigotry. Bigots aren’t bigots because they reasons their way in to bigotry, and so you can’t stop them from being bigots by reasoning them out of it.
I'm sorry it played out that way for you, but even so, what you're advocating for hurts people too. Even if that's not your intention, it still does, and I think that's something that should be part of your consideration when approaching this topic.
I'm sorry it hurt you, but I'm not going to ignore stuff that hurts my community
Beehaw defederated from LW, not the other way around IIRC