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Anyone browsing on most mobile Lemmy apps does not see profile pics btw, so people might be downvoting because "she's very obviously a woman" is in fact not at all obvious to mobile users.
I did not downvote btw. Am using Eternity Lemmy client.
There's still the username. And the proper response to that situation is, "Oh, oops, I didn't realize, let me edit my comment, thanks for bringing it to my attention."
If I can figure out a way to view who downvoted, I will be tagging them to call them out and name and shame. I find it completely inexcusable. If they didn't know they were in the wrong, they wouldn't be afraid to show their faces and explain themselves.
I really want to down vote you because of your aggressiveness and off topic ranting but I'll ask instead what about their username should tell me the user's gender?
Clearly, this must be a man 🤡🤡🤡
My app shows me cupcakezealot as the username. Must be a woman 🤡 🤡 🤡
Why the fuck are y'all using these shitty apps that don't display either profile pics or usernames properly? Literally worse functionality than just using a browser.
Don't get mad at me for your choice to use a shitty product that takes away basic functionality and causes you to be ignorant about people's identities.
"Um, actually, you're being unfair to people using text-only browsers."
No one is mad at you for the app they use. People are upset with your shitty behavior. No one that downvoted you did so because of transphobia or whatever bullshit reason you want to come up with. It's because you're a miserable keyboard warrior and likely troll.
People like this do not handle being disagreed with very well, do they?
Simply cannot accept their imaginary version of events isn't what actually happened.
"My shitty behavior," that is, calling out misgendering and transphobia. But it's definitely not transphobia that's motivating downvoters. Oh, and you know this how? None of them have come out to say their reasons, because they're transphobic cowards who don't want to get called out for it.
You'd better fucking believe I'm going to "aggressively" support trans people against you fucks.
Youre shitty behavior is doubling down on calling out the so called transphobia when it has been explained to you several times that many users don't see the same label you are seeing. You admitted that yourself. I'm telling you right now as a person who downvoted you why I did so. It's time to move along now troll.
And as I said, it's not my fault you're choosing to use shitty apps that take away basic functionality that everyone else can see.
Oh, interesting, because you said,
But I guess that was a fucking lie.
I ain't going nowhere. You better believe I'm gonna keep calling out your shit every time you reply. You don't like it, you can fuck off, transphobe.
There are real transphobes that are a serious threat to people and you diminish what it means to call people out on it when you use it toward every person you have a disagreement with. I started down voting when you avoided confronting facts. You're the only one who is mad about how apps function. No one has responded with the aggression that you have shown so far.
Who did i misgender? Youre calling me a transphobe because I asked a simple question and then explained my app doesn't show the same username that your does. You are showing senseless aggression.
Why do people on here act like defending something someone else said is somehow different from saying it yourself? You opened with saying you wanted to down vote me, and then called me a clown.
I still genuinely want to know why on earth, like completely unrelated to this, why you would choose to use an app that takes away basic functionality?
Let's not forget who started calling others a clown first. Why are you so certain I was aware my app didn't correctly display usernames? Who do you think here is defending transphobia? You haven't made a single case for anyone in this thread being transphobic. You made your mind up about who is transphobic before anyone displayed any transphobia.
Because you asked how you could possibly know someone who's username is "katy ✨" was a woman. That is clown shit.
Doubling down on misgendering is transphobic. It's fine if it's an honest mistake at first, but the correct response to being called out on it, or seeing someone else get called on it, is not to downvote, not to argue about it, but to say, "sorry, I didn't realize" and correct it.
But no, I'm sure that your motives for fighting me on this have nothing to do with transphobia, you're just fighting on it because, what was it again? I was "too aggressive" in calling out transphobia? I guess if people can say, "I'm not fascist, I'm just anti-anti-fascism," then your version is, "I'm not transphobic, I'm just anti-anti transphobia." My sincerest apologies for not making the distinction.
Again, you know that several users don't see the same username. You know you have no proof of transphobia occurring here. To anyone who may have followed this thread this far, I apologize for feeding this troll for so long. I hope no one here truly believes you are an ally of the trans community. Baselessly calling people transphobes will do far more harm than good for those you are so desperately pretending to be an ally of. Congrats on being my first blocked user after 2 years of using lemmy.
That's where you're wrong, the proof is in the fact that you're still fighting me over calling out misgendering even now. You could've backed down at any time.
Not surprised a transphobe is blocking someone for calling out transphobia.
Yeah, OK, blocking you. You are just toxic and hurting whatever your goals are.
You need to stop screaming transphobe at everyone who disagrees with you, it's a serious accusation, and it's been explained to you that not everyone sees profile pictures.
And I've explained that defending misgendering is not just "a disagreement."
Their username is cupcakezealot, is it not? Why would anything else be displayed?
No, her display name is "katy✨"
If you weren't using an app that removes basic functionality, this is what you'd see:
Well, I am, so 🤷
Not my fault you choose to use it and then are ignorant of stuff everyone else can see. Make better choices.
Aren't ML users just the nicest people?
If you go around misgendering people, then no, we are not, and I'm in fact quite proud to not be "nice" about that.
Let me put it to you this way. If I see someone with a clearly female profile pic and display name getting called masculine terms, I'm going to aggressively call that shit out. So you can either:
Stop using a dumb app that removes your ability to see shit
Don't default to masculine terms for anonymous users
Don't get upset when you are called out for misgendering, just own up to it
Block me because you want to go around misgendering people and not getting called on it.
First, I didn't misgender anyone, second, I pointed out that a large chunk of Lemmy users don't see either of those things.
You're the one that took the ball and ran with it.
Defending misgendering and criticizing people for calling it out is in no way better than doing it yourself. I don't know why libs on here always play this, "Um, actually, I didn't say that, I just defended someone else saying it," bullshit. I do not care.
My god, I’m beginning to think you’re a parody account. No one can be this arrogant and smug about something so petty and unimportant as what app one uses.
My app, and clearly a lot of mobile apps, show the @, which is like the legal name, so [email protected], it does not show the account display name, which is Katy, until I click on the profile. This is most likely due to screen size and for readability. Same with the profile picture, do not see it until I click on the profile.
Which brings me back to the question I've been trying to get an answer to as to why someone would go out of their way to install an app that reduces the websites functionality.
In any case, the proper response should be, "oops, it was a mistake, thanks for letting me know" and not fighting me on it or downvoting.
As I explained before, I don't give a shit about your profile picture or display name, it does nothing but take up valuable screen space. I want to see your username and comment, that's what I came here for.
You're telling me that picture "takes up too much screen space?"
I think y'all are out of your minds but you do you ig.
Still doesn't excuse or explain responding negatively to correcting misgendering.
They're responding negatively to you and the way you're choosing to engage with people, not your point.
Really, because I was responded negatively to when I was just calling out misgendering.
I have no clue what your last reply to me said since you're blocked, but I assume it was more random, flailing personal attacks. Good luck with that.
Yes, because you did it in a shitty way but apparently you're one of those people who can't be wrong, every other person is wrong.
Dude… you might want to seriously think about leaving lemmy- or at creating a different account and staring over with one where you can show more respect for people.
This place might not be for you if you can get so easily upset by other people’s choices.
Imagine whining about this person being disrespectful when you're wasting this much time and energy excusing misgendering xD that person screwed up, you don't have to be a dick about it. They were blatantly, obviously misgendering. What are you trying to accomplish by defending that?
I didn’t excuse shit, so I’m not going to get trapped up in bullshit false accusations.
Dude is whining about what apps people are using and obnoxiously demanding that people not downvote them or else explain why.
I don’t give a fuck what they’re defending or arguing for. They’re being ridiculously petty.
To accomodate different instances and different infrastructure I would assume. My app lets me turn the display name and the profile picture on and off, but again the size of the photo and the dual display name and @ takes up a lot of screen space and it’s easier to have them off.
Respectfully disagree
Mine does not display it like that, I have it set to a larger print though, and the full display name and the @ appears.
I downvoted you. It’s because you don’t know how to discuss topics like an adult without arrogantly insulting people.
News flash: Despite what you seem to think- no one here is beneath you. You’re just a random person on the internet- just like everyone else.