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Lots of people working as headless chickens, as always… The strange thing I can rant about is, that we have a strange colleague since forever, and she takes turns with whom to have conflicts with. I am pretty sure she has severe OCD, she opens doors only with tissue papers, she uses all the paper from the kitchens and bathrooms, she floods the toilets with so much paper, she uses all the soap, stuff like that. I don’t know how OCD works, because she is not especially a very clean person, it is somehow selective what she cleans. She sometimes comes with the same trousers day after day in the office.
If somebody brings cake or candy for the whole office, she takes all of it if the plates get to be unsupervised. She has an obsession with food. I saw one day on her desk a bag with at least 15 bread buns. They did not last long. She sometimes eats raw onion in the kitchen, imagine how that stinks. She farts in the office from what I heard. I don’t sit next to her, so I cannot confirm that, luckily.
Latest issue she developed is that she does not like light to come into the office, so there are conflicts with a colleague, because the others do not want to work in a bunker. There are a lot of tensions right now about this. She lies and acts like a victim with the managers. It is not the first conflict she has and that she is lying. And she is not a good developer, although she thinks she is superior to the others and treats people shit, she is a bully, especially with other women. Who knows what kind of trauma she lived in her life. Sometimes I am sorry for her, because she makes her life miserable. But she does make our life harder also, then I am not sorry for her anymore. She tried to bully me too, but I have zero tolerance for that behavior and I treated her harshly and she got the message. She avoids me now if possible.
It‘s shitty to have such a person in the office, everyone else is getting along very well. She clearly needs help, but nobody does anything. A few years ago, I left a self help book about OCD on her desk. Looks like it did not help.
Oh yegads that sounds really awful and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I'll bet many have tried and failed to help her in the past, and she needs to help herself.