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"do what you want to me" is my least favourite dirty talk. The base idea is that we both currently WANT to do the same dirty rough sex but for some reason we're not doing it. What makes her think he's NOT doing what he wants right now? What if he's a for fetishist and wants to put her foot in his mouth and jerk off? What if he just wants her to eat his ass?
Clearly "do what you want to me" doesn't mean do what you want to me. "do what you want to me" means "I have a specific type of rough sex in mind but I'm not able to express my desires clearly, so I've projected them into my partner and I've made it their responsibility to understand me and do the right type of sex stuff to me"
I know this is basically an unhinged response to a greentext but I've had so many bad experiences with that specific line. Is wanting clear communication before and during sex about the sex we're about to perform too much to ask for?
Right on the head, I've had a woman try to tell me to be rougher and take what I want.
Sure, right after you sign a fucking waiver - I'm not about to 'take what I want' and have you turn around and claim I forced you into something.
Do all women secretly want to be raped?
Seriously. It might be a genetic primate thing. Built in.
#NotAllWomen but the ones who do like it rough often have fantasies that involve losing power and agency over what their partner does. Hence roleplaying rape and "do what you want to me". However, sometimes they do have a script in their head and don't like it when the partner deviates from that script because they just want to play at losing control, not actually lose it.
Then, if they haven't agreed on a safe word beforehand, which they haven't because we're talking about people who don't communicate properly, it turns into a confrontation.