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Maybe don't constantly tell your 13 year old to get a job if they want something, then sabotage any attempt they make at getting a job?
Maybe don't have a kid so you have something resembling a proto-personality beyond self absorbed narcissism.
Don't expect a kid to fix a failing marriage.
sometimes the kid saying that is a little shit. Sometimes it is the parents that are the problem.
Yup. In my opinion if you want to have a child, the only reason should be to raise a better person than you or your spouse could be, and provide them with a better life than you had, enriching your life in the process. If you have a kid for any other reason, it’s out of selfishness
In that case you would be creating a child (that did not exist before) as a tool to show to yourself (and maybe others) that you can do better than your parents. As the child had no problems before it's creation, and now has many, that's still not in the interest of the child.
The selfless thing to do would be to figure out if you would be an above-average adoptive parent. If you are or can be, then adopt a child that was created by someone else (maybe to show that they can do better than their parents, but life happened and they failed), and try to give them the best life possible in a society where everyone tries to outperform everyone else as the world is hurdling towards fascism and climate collapse.