Maybe don't constantly tell your 13 year old to get a job if they want something, then sabotage any attempt they make at getting a job?
Maybe don't have a kid so you have something resembling a proto-personality beyond self absorbed narcissism.
Don't expect a kid to fix a failing marriage.
sometimes the kid saying that is a little shit. Sometimes it is the parents that are the problem.
Without due process, there is no way to determine her legal status.