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For those of us who are childfree due to parental trauma, or whose decision to remain childfree is currently causing tons of family strife to come to the surface, this is for you. (youtu.be)

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My dad was like that, except he was "bad" with money in a very calculated way that made it crystal clear that he was frittering money away on everyone except his family (me and my mother, who is her own horrible can of worms) as punishment for not toeing his line. And yet they both were shocked to the point of rage when I mentioned I'm not going to have kids. My mother even went so far as to say "just make the kid and give them to me, I'll raise them while you and your wife go to work". Fuck that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Yup I feel that hard. Like they would actually care for the children at all, they want grandma/grandpa duty, to come over, have fun grandkid time and then leave as soon as the kids get fussy, or poop, or anything they don't like. For my mom, she has friends that she's jealous of and now wants grandkids just so she can show her friends. All horrible reasons.

And yeah, my dad was similar, to the point where he thought he was hurting me by taking me out of his will. Literally said "You're out of the will!". The guy was a low level government worker, he has an okay pension but his salary was less than 50k for the vast majority of his life. Owns no property or anything. I think I'll live not being in it lol