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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago (2 children)

For some it comes with age, as they gradually give less and less of a shit. Around 40, maybe? Might stem from a mindset of: "You've already thrown me all the curveballs you can, world. You can't hurt me anymore."

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Narrator: "Life could, in fact, throw many more curveballs."

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Hahahahaha omg so true.

All I hear is a song from My Fair Lady: "Just You Wait, Henry Higgens, Just You Wait"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Most certainly - only that I don't worry as much about the curveballs coming. 😉

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

As someone who’s reached 45… definitely not. I have way more anxiety, am more easily stressed, and constantly have imposter syndrome and worries I did not have when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. I’m used to some of it, but life now throws me different curveballs. 30’s were probably my best decade thus far concerning the OPs statement.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My 30s were actually my worst, I think (with the exception of my childhood). When I turned 40, it was almost like flipping a switch, but it also coincided with my son being born a year and a half before that. Of course there are new things to worry about, but it's different, somehow. Things are much better now. ☺️

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

It’s odd for me in that my 20’s and 30’s were full of changes (relationships, moves, kids, job, etc) and by all accounts should have been the more stressful, tumultuous time, but I definitely just cruised right through feeling like I had it together and bouncing from challenge to challenge.

Now that I’m in my 40’s, I’ve sorted out the big things, I’ve stabilized my life and I’ve got more experience and wisdom… but I’m simultaneously aware of more things I know I can’t solve and that’s much harder to deal with mentally.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Exactly the same for me at 47. It's like you described my own personal experience.