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Absolute trash to pretty solid.
Worst was a counselor for a relationship, didn't listen to anything I said and focused entirely on who showed the most sadness instead of the issues we were having. Stereotypical blaming the man for not being able to read minds while glossing over any actual communication issues. I was supposed to figure out what was upsetting my wife without asking her and also I was blamed for not picking up vague hints that were inconsistent. Also, don't you see how upset she is! Stop expecting her to tell you what is wrong! My wife was the one who didn't want to go back.
Best was a one on one therapist who actually listened and helped with perspective. He helped a lot with being able to understand when to stop trying to communicate and just taking a guess when that is the omly option, plus guidance on more structured introspection. Bonus: He helped me get diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s, which really helped.
Had a couple of others who kinda listened but didn't really help. At least they weren't a net negative like the relationship one.