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Adults who have lost a spouse or SO, how do you cope? (feddit.de)

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Lost my wife (34) to cancer last month and I haven't found any good resources to help me. How do you cope with their loss? Please remove if this isn't allowed.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

Cry. Let it happen man. I’m tearing up thinking about what that would be like. Fuck being manly. Cry.

The only way to get over these feelings is to let them run their course. You’ll never get over it, but you’ll learn to live with it.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Lol trust me, crying is happening whether I want it to or not.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

One day you'll be proud to wear the scar that's shaped like her

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

This is good advice but doesn't cover the other part: how to live, how to progress.

As in, even if you can express yourself, grief can still feel immobilizing

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

I’m not trying to cover that part, just the now.