It's been a while since I last posted, but here it goes.
So mom hired this new attorney about 4 years ago. She is a real battle-axe. The motto of her firm is that "Some people don't have the stomach for our type of litigation, so it's not for everyone" and our clients are "primarily wealthy". Does that tell you a handful already? The poor children that suffer under these types of attorneys.
My ex has been pushing for a minor's counsel ever since she onboarded this attorney. A minor's counsel is an attorney for the child or children. They represent the interests of the children and they charge family law attorney fees of $400 - $500 per hour to listen to what the child has to say and force the parents to pay and comply. So, child wants to live with mom 100% she lives with mom, child wants to live with dad 100%, child lives with dad. Child wants to join $10,000 basketball association, parents are forced to comply and pay for it. As with the rest of the family law industry it's in the attorneys best interest to churn issues. The more issues the more money they make.
So, mom has been tainting our children's minds and allowing our children to make decisions of their own. Life choice decisions that they are not ready to make. It's call parentification and it's harmful. At the same time anytime that dad disapproves of something, he is automatically branded unsupportive of his child's needs. It's very interesting, because this is a woman that paid more in legal fees to avoid paying child support to dad than what was owed in child support. If that tells you anything. Let's look at an email a couple of days ago where I try to address the brainwashing of one of my children. She is 12 y/o and badmouthing from her mom's home is not uncommon as I have experienced it since our child could talk.
From Dad
Lately, I've noticed a change in Kassy. Whenever decisions don't align with her wishes, she becomes quite vocal. One of these disagreements she mentioned that she's expressed a desire to decide where she lives once she turns 14.
Additionally, she often uses phrases like, "you're not understanding my needs" and "why should I believe in God.” I can't help but notice that these sound similar to your viewpoints.
I'm concerned that there may be an intention to sway Kassy's perspective of me or to distance her from me. I truly request that we avoid this. My love for Kassy is immense, and hearing her voice such sentiments is deeply hurtful. We may have differing opinions on parenting, but for Kassy's sake, it's crucial that we present a united front. No matter our personal disputes or legal challenges, I always try to shield Kassy from our disagreements. It's essential for her well-being to have a positive relationship with both her parents. My hope is for us to cooperate in raising Kassy, but it often feels like I can only please you by acquiescing to all your wishes. This has been a recurring feeling over the years, and it saddens me. I urge you to consider Kassy'sfeelings and well-being. It's crucial for her emotional health to not harbor resentment towards either of us. I hope our differences wouldn't overshadow our mutual love for her.
If I've inadvertently upset you, I apologize. My main priority is ensuring Kassy's happiness and well-being.
From Mom
She has a right to her own opinions, needs and what she wants. She is getting older if you haven’t noticed and should have her own opinions. She knows how you are and senses what she senses. The school teaches her to advocate for herself and so do I.
From Dad
Ever since you engaged your current attorney, which I believe has been for the past 3-4 years, you've sought minor's counsel. I'm concerned about what perceptions might have been influenced during that period.
From Mom
Why don’t you learn to support her and listen to her instead of forcing what you want on her.
From Dad
I support our daughter 100% on what she wants to do. There is absolutely no use in discussing this with you any further.
Goodnight.