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Yeah. It’s not only rude but ugly, really ugly. Someone lost their best friend and may* not have had anywhere else to turn for support but eff them for bringing down my glee. It’s unkind and selfish, at best. Perhaps op could look within for who did what to make that shadow, and how they can befriend it.
Wtf. No one owes you their sadness, and it's beyond selfish to expect others to be upset just because you are. You adopted the pet. It's your responsibility, no one else's.
That's true for anyone not actively advocating for "share things that make me happy please but keep the sad sides to yourself, will ya?"
That is selfish. I don't expect anyone to be sad with me, but when you feel so bothered by people who want to share their grief between your happy goofy dog pictures that you complain about it, you come off as selfish.
Yes, don't post sad shit in communities not designed for that.
That is not selfish.
Who decides what a community is "designed for"? What makes you so sure the "dead animal posters" are in the wrong with how they see the community and not you?
That's not how life works. I don't go around in public telling every random stranger about my dead mom and how much I miss her. That's my burden to bear and would be completely inappropriate. The same goes for cute cat subs and there needs to be a rule preventing it.
That's not what's happening here though. A community, however open to subscriptions, is still a closed off, alibeit permiable space. It's like a community center that has a dog room. Everyone can see inside, everyone can be there, but no one is rubbing anything in anyone's faces if you enter and see something you don't like.
Yes, that is what's happening. This is a public space. There is no permission required to be here anyone can participate. Dropping your dead animal story on a crowd of people trying to brighten up their day is a dick move. That's it that's all. I'm done here. G'night!
posting your personal sad stories to an otherwise wholesome, happy community is straight-up tone deaf antisocial shit.
You justify calling people antisocial because you decided that the community in question is wholesome and happy while the dead animal posts are literal proof to the opposite. If the community explicitly said that no sad posts were allowed, you'd be in the right. But a community doesn't have to behave like you want it to just because you want it to, does it?
Good luck out there kiddo
I am 100% being selfish in this situation. But y'all could also make a community specific for grieving the loss of a pet.
Or you could make a community without that.
No and no one owes anyone bitterness, either. Scroll on is the point.
Lemmy has gotten extremely vitriolic. As Sidhartha said, holding resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the resented to die.
What's ugly and rude is dropping your dead dog story on a crowd of random strangers that are there just looking for something to brighten up their day. There are plenty of emotional support communities to chose from that are more appropriate for people grieving over loss.
How do I befriend a dead dog?
That’s not what I said.