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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Lol they want you to be outraged that someone might change their mind but ppl change their mind all the time e.g. divorce so trying to pass it as a trans issue is a thinly veiled gaslight

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It seemed to me like they perceived that some people to be outraged by people who change their mind and were advocating that all decisions should be safe.

To transition and then change one’s mind about it was an unspeakable, disgusting fate, almost no matter whom you asked. That didn’t exactly make gender exploration any easier. I contemplated transition for years but didn’t move forward, because I so deeply feared getting it wrong. And then once I started, I was terrified of how it might look for me to turn back.

That is not wanting people outraged, that is being afraid of outrage. They didn’t even say the outrage was specifically a trans issue, because it also came from TERFs or whoever. And I don’t think they mentioned it, but it plays right into right wing narratives even if fully detransitioning isn’t what they wanted either.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We're largely in agreement. Read my comment and replace ”they" with anti-trans rights folk

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

That makes much more sense. :)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not sure I follow what you're saying. Could you rephrase?

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago (3 children)

If I am reading correctly, they are just pointing out that people regret all kinds of decisions that have lasting impact on life. To try to say that trans people in particular need to be "protected" from transition because of possible regret is acting as though that regret is uniquely bad, which isn't the case. Hence why it would be gaslighting.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Ah yea, I thought the author did a great job touching on that

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Yes thanks that's what I was saying