Right now, im using a single instance lemmy on my own servers. I have a couple of issues with it that im not quite sure what to do with:

1. It seems to make a LOT of calls to other servers. Its almost constantly pinging other servers asking for updates.
2. It gets de-federated almost instantly from popular instances. Which kinda sucks.
3. It uses up quite a bit of CPU compared to other federated applications.
4. Subscribing to instances seems to work most of the time, but sometimes it just errors out and I have to re-do it.

Im pretty sure if I update my version to the newest version of lemmy I may get around 2/4 but even when I used a fairly new dockerized version of lemmy, it seemed like it was calling a LOT of servers/using a lot of CPU for something I would like to have it update maybe once an hour or so.

Essentially im looking for something like GoToSocial is to Mastodon but for lemmy. Hope that makes sense.

Is there anything like that out there? Piefed maybe?