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The original was posted on /r/antiwork by /u/trentlaws on 2025-04-26 19:36:18+00:00.
For the past two years, I've been dealing with an incredibly volatile, controlling coworker. Our work is intertwined, we both report to same person. They label everything as urgent and ask me to connect on calls beyond my work hours & when I pushback with justification and reason, they say "Yeah I know but I need you to be flexible". When I pushed back hard enough with justification, they without discussing with me straightway escalated it to the manager citing that I am posing resistance and not cooperating. Manager in public platform said that I need to support the asks and meet stakeholder needs even at late night. I have been doing this constantly & this message from manager has become all the more reason for this coworker to label everything as urgent and ask me to join calls well beyond work hours , they are making what should be an exception to be a norm for me. The colleagues project is small part of the big project I handle and in turn this colleague pushes and tries to micromanage my time and work. There are other team members on the project who are courteous and respect my time, only this colleague is the problem. I spoke to manager on the side about this escalation and on call they say, learn to deal with stakeholders and that they have confidence in me. Then I dont understand why they berated me in public channel without understanding the context and first checking with me on the issue privately.