I am not The OOP, OOP is u/RichVictory2741
My new boyfriend follows Andrew Tate, should I worry?
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Original Post April 19, 2025
So I’ve been dating this guy (26m) for about a month now, and it’s starting to become serious between us. He is such a sweet guy, I haven’t noticed any red flags - and I’m normally very hyper vigilant to such.
The other night we were both scrolling through reels on our phones, and I see a couple of Andrew Tate videos pop up on his for you page. So I ask him if he likes Tate, he didn’t really give a straightforward answer - but while discussing, he says something like “Tate is kinda misunderstood, and if you watch his full discussions with women etc. you would view him in a different light” But idk, I must confess I don’t really know that much about him, but from what I’ve heard he’s basically a walking red flag.
I know my boyfriend likes boxing, and that’s probably partly why he’s interested. I should also mention that my bf was raised in a female dominated home and is a little mamas boy, and loves his sisters very much too! He’s never spoken disrespectfully about any women and is very gentle and mindful of me!
So should I be worried?
RELEVANT COMMENTS
luluzinhacs
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how long have you met this guy for? honestly, saying a human trafficker and rapist is misunderstood is inexcusable in my eyes
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but the thing is, you do NOT know your boyfriend
it baffles me you two are seriously dating after knowing each other for a month, but that aside, you need to realize that you can’t possibly know anyone in a period of time this short
OP, how old are you? I just realized you didn’t say and this could explain a lot
OOP
only known him for about a month, so not that long. He just really doesn’t seem like the type - and I should maybe clarify, that I don’t think he meant Tate himself was misunderstood but some of his viewpoint. From knowing my bf, I can’t imagine he would in any way agree to abuse of women.. it’s very confusing
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That is true, and I know it has become serious very quickly! I am usually very hypersensitive to any warning signs when I start dating someone new, and quick to leave if - because of my past.. and he has been the first one I’ve felt comfortable and safe around in a long time:// So I really thought I picked right this time
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Additional_Yak8332
Are you comfortable revealing your age? It might help us understand.
Also, check out limerence. It's where your relationship is right now - understandable but not realistic.
OOP
I’m 24:) that’s an interesting theory, I will do some more reading into it!
Update 1 April 22, 2025 (3 days later)
Posting it here as I couldn’t post in the sub
First of all I wanna thank everyone who messaged me! I promised some to give an update, and I also wanna clarify some misunderstandings in my last post!
English is my second language so some words were used in lack of better, like bf. It is still very unofficial between us, so ‘potential bf’ might have been the right word. Also a lot of you were hung up on the phrase “Tate is misunderstood”, i wanna clarify that I never said that he said those words exact - just that it was something like that.
I met with my (not) Bf Yesterday, and we had a long talk. I asked him what he meant about Tate being ‘misunderstood’ to which he said that “a big part of what we see is just media stunts and rage bait, but that he is not always that outrageous”, then he showed me some of the videos he’s watched. It was mostly about boxing and some motivational speeches about how a man can thrive in our society. I will confess that even though I don’t like Tate, some of his points did make a lot of sense.
We spoke about the allegations against Tate, and he said that he didn’t want to judge someone based on rumors - so I of course showed him the video you guys messaged me, of Tate being violent towards a woman. He was shocked by it and said “if that’s really him, then fuck Tate” We ended up talking about everything and nothing for hours, it was really nice!
Communication really was the key, and I’m glad I didn’t let some of the comments scare me away! The world isn’t black and white after all, and liking Tate might seem ignorant but it doesn’t necessarily equal to being a misogynist! I feel like I have learned a lot from this situation and I hope that by sharing it, it could benefit someone else!
Thanks again for all the advice and support!
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AssociateBusiness670
Yikes. I just want to say he knew that Tate had allegations and still thought that was a good person to take advice from. Good luck girl I’m sure you will need it! 😅
Edit: Actually this almost just screams it was written by a man because of the end paragraph… “liking Andrew tate doesn’t mean you are a misogynist…” when talking about supporting someone who beats and sex traffics women.. just odd if that’s real
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Violetlemonbug
You've only been seeing this guy for a month. You do not really know him. I would tread VERY carefully if you are deciding to keep him in your life.
OOP
Trust me I am, and if I notice even the slightest bit of misogyny from HIM, he’ll get blocked immediately. Don’t care if we are 3 months or 5 years in
I know some will say that he’s already showing signs because of having seen some of Tates videos. But there’s also people driving teslas with stickers saying “f*** Elon”
So I’ll make the decision based on his actions and not his watchlist
Mini update in the comments (April 27, 2025)
OOP
So I think u all will be happy to know I’ve blocked him completely
Odd_Variation_8
What happened in between?
OOP
I saw some signs that I felt was a red flag, and I felt that was all I needed to see
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