I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Raging-ball-of-fury
I’m either adopted or was switched at birth.
Originally posted to r/AncestryDNA
Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
Original Post - wayback Apr 1, 2025
I haven’t told anyone but my brother and a cousin about this yet because I might be paranoid?
Story is this:
My maternal grandmother was the first generation to be born in Mexico since her parents came from Okinawa, Japan. My maternal grandfather is black (I don’t know where his paternal family came from) and native to Mexico on his mother’s side.
My paternal grandparents were born in England and grew up in Spain but eventually ended up in Mexico (long story) where my dad was born.
I was born and raised in Mexico, I knew I was indigenous but always believed I was mostly European and Japanese. I am white and a ginger (I die my hair brown tho because of bullying but that’s another story), my friends would even call me “el chino” growing up because they said I looked “Chinese”or “Korean.” So I had never really doubted my ethnicity or my origins.
Anyway, my brother and I took an ancestry and we just got our results back. We share Spanish and Indigenous American blood but he is like 20% Japanese and I got nothing. Not even 1%. I didn’t get any percentage for Ireland and England either but he did.
I am mostly indigenous over 70% and our results say we are not a match… like we are not related at all…
I compared then my results with a cousin on my dad’s side and same thing. It says we are not a match, the only match we got was our grandparents’ names on our family trees. But I am not related to her…..
So yeah, I don’t know if this could be an error or a glitch or something??? Or if it’s possible to not have Japanese and English percentages at all and still be part of my family somehow???? Idk this is the first time I ever take an ancestry test, I might be looking at the wrong places.
I’m not complaining about being mostly Indigenous, I’ve always been proud of being native to these lands. I am just confused as to how I didn’t inherit any Japanese or English blood if my parents’ families came to Mexico not long ago, and how I’m supposedly not related to my own family??? Is it really possible that I was adopted or switched at birth, because oh my gosh where’s the real me then??????
Note: I’ve attached some screenshots with my results and my brother and cousin’s profiles saying we are not a match. I didn’t post their results because I didn’t get their consent to do so. I got consent for posting a picture of me and my brother tho. I think we look alike a lot, i don’t know how we are not related???
Last 2 pictures is just me for reference.
EDITORS NOTE: unable to recover the pictures
RELEVANT COMMENTS
dnairanian
You definitely need to talk to your parents about this. Did you tell your parents you took this test? Did they react at all? I definitely agree that you are either adopted or switched at birth or IVF baby.
Also was your brother English and African as expected or were his results off as well?
OOP
My brother was English, Irish, Japanese, Nigerian, Native to Mexico and Spaniard.
My parents knew about the testing thing because I sent my brother the testing kit to their house and my mom was the one who picked it up. She was excited about knowing our results and my dad even asked me why didn’t I get him a test too. Him and my mom just asked me again yesterday, I told him about my results but not about me not being related to them. They didn’t seem to be suspicious or anything.
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Spiritual-Can2604
I think switched at birth. You’ve got to get this sorted out. I’m sorry you’re going through this. The nurses saw you probably looked very Asian at birth and got you mixed up w the actual Asian baby bc in their minds how many Asian babies are there being born in Mexican hospitals at one time. They probably weren’t careful.
OOP
Now that would make sense, I consider it a huge possibility. I don’t think I would mind as much being other people’s biological child though, I’m a grown up person with my own family. I think I’m more worried about my parents not knowing where their real baby is, that is if I was really switched at birth and this wasn’t a lab mistake. I don’t wanna know how news like this would affect them.
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Jenikovista
Could also be a donated embryo (IVF).
OOP
Could be but I find it unlikely, I think I wrote it on another reply before, I am the 5th child out of 6 children my parents had. The kid on the picture with me is my baby brother, he was born 2 years after me. I don’t think my mother had any reproductive issues or even the money to pay for a procedure like that. Although I think I’d rather be a donated embryo than a changeling.
Update Apr 28, 2025
Update on the update about “I was either adopted or switched at birth.”
I couldn’t edit the original post so I’m making a new one.
My mother saw my previous post, she is a member of this sub, I didn’t even know she had a Reddit account. I would like to apologise to her and my family for coming to Reddit before telling any of them and for posting screenshots of her results without consent.
Neither of my parents have any idea how this messed up situation happened, we had a long conversation about all of this and are currently in contact with a search angel in the hopes we find some answers and hopefully the real me (their lost child).
I meant to get some advice here before telling my family about this but life had other plans and they now know. I only posted here to vent and to get an idea on how I should break the news to them, I was never planning on hiding it from my family.
お母さん、心から謝罪する、許してください。
RELEVANT COMMENTS
publiusvaleri_us
Did you ever talk to your classmate who has the same birth date? That would be interesting if they were to take a DNA test.
OOP
I did message him but he hasn’t replied, it’s been over 15 years since I last talked to him, he doesn’t have any recent posts and I was thinking maybe he lost the password for that Facebook account or something? I don’t have any other way to contact him but I’m still looking for profiles to see if he made a new one or something, there are just too many guys named “Kevin” in our hometown.
viv-heart
Reach out to your old classmates - somebody might have his phone number
OOP
I was trying to look for my old classmates too, no luck. He was the only one I had added because he was my buddy back then. I’m terrible with names and it’s also been over a decade, for some of my classmates I only remember last names and for others nick names or first names. I will keep working on that though!
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torulosa
From my understanding OP doesn’t yet know who their bio parents are, they didn’t have any really close DNA matches and still need help to work it out?
OOP
Yes, but my matches are 5% or less and I can’t contact them because they won’t answer my messages. I’m not exactly sure 100% either how search angels work, if I did I wouldn’t be needing one and I’d do the job myself. But what I get from my chat with them is that they have experience in building family trees based on DNA matches and public records, I was also told they have sometimes had to get court orders to unseal original birth records and stuff.
I hope my explanation makes sense, sorry I don’t have all the information. I am learning as we go.
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