I am NOT the Original Poster. That is Ema11e. She posted in r/AmItheAsshole
Thanks to u/Myune for the rec! Short post. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is more than 7 days old.
Mood Spoiler: wtf
Original Post: April 16, 2025
so I (23f) live alone in a small 2 bedroom house. one room is mine, the other one is basically my everything room. It’s my office, my closet, storage, sometimes i just lay on the floor in there and stare at the ceiling when life sucks lol. it is NOT a guest room. I’ve lived with horrible roommates before so I worked really hard to be able to afford my own place and I love having my space. it’s literally my safe little bubble. anyways, one of my coworkers (25f) got into a huge fight with her roommates and they kicked her out. she was venting at work and i felt bad and was like “that sucks omg” and even sent her a few places to look at. I was trying to be helpful without inviting chaos into my life yk?
later that night she texts me saying “hey I was thinking maybe I could just crash with you for a few weeks since you live alone and have the space?”
i literally got that sinking feeling in my chest. nooo. no no no. i’m not even close to her. we’re cool at work but we’ve never even hung out outside of lunch breaks and complaining about our boss. she doesn’t know anything about me. and i don’t know her like that. why would she live in my HOUSE.
so i replied super politely like “i totally get that you’re going through it but i really value my space and I’m just not in a place where I can have someone stay with me” like i was NICE. didn’t ghost her. didn’t ignore her. just said no.
next day she’s acting really weird. then another coworker tells me she said i “let her be homeless” when i “have an entire room to myself.” like GIRL. first of all, she’s staying at her bf’s place. second of all, I pay to live alone. that’s the whole POINT. I don’t wanna feel tense or uncomfortable in my own space. I don’t wanna tiptoe around a person I barely know. and I definitely don’t wanna deal with “just a few weeks” turning into “i’m looking but nothing’s coming through yet” for 2 months.
now ppl at work are acting like I’m the bad guy. sorry for not letting a coworker move into my apartment bc she had a bad fight? idk. i feel bad but like. also no.
Aita??
Some of OOP's Comments:
Commenter: NTA - I don't understand why a coworker would feel entitled to your home? That's truly bizarre. Her life is not your responsibility. I mean, I could maybe get it if you were super close and good, long-term friends with a deep connection... but a casual coworker??
OOP: Literally just a casual coworker I don’t get it
Commenter: Anyone makes that comment again to you OP, you say "I'll let coworker know that you're volunteering your space to them, so kind of you"
OOP: Aye aye captain 🫡
Commenter: NTA. You don't need to find out first hand why her roommates and boyfriend don't want to live with her either.
OOP: I’m definitely understanding it now seeing the reaction after saying no. I am a homebody and really enjoy my personal space given the fact I work two jobs and my home is my only care free space.
Commenter: NTA
For the co-workers saying you're letting the girl be homeless etc etc... Do you see them offering a place for her to crash? Exactly
OOP: It’s only because I work my tail off with two jobs to have extra space. Would feel pointless if I just handed that free space away.
Commenter: NTA This person is not a friend or family. Why doesn’t she get an air bnb or Motel?
OOP: That’s what I was thinking. If she’s in such a horrible spot I would even help her a pay for a night or two. If it was family or my best friend it would be a different story. But for added context I’ve only been working at this job for 6 months.
Commenter: You said people at work are acting like you're the bad guy. Has anyone said anything to you about the situation?
OOP: It’s always something like “well I would if I lived by myself” “I would if I had the space” I’ve had a similar situation happen to me and it sucksssss really bad. which is why I sent her listings. not sure how that equated to “let me live with you” but it does seem like my reasonings of wanting to be alone are somehow invalidated. it’s like they think my “free room” didn’t come at a cost
Update (Same Post): April 17, 2025 (Next Day)
UPDATE: she went to jail, lol. Don’t know what happened but I feel horrible to say I laughed. Well, solves that issue.
Edit cause I have to highlight my favorite comment:
“Go up to the people that had something to say and tell them they are horrible for not bailing her out”