I've gotten some on Discord. Men don't send unsolicited dick pics to show off, they show them to harass. I only get them from people I'm not paying attention to. Like if someone messages me and I stop messaging back that's typically when I get them. You can't fathom doing it because you're (hopefully lol) not someone who would sexually harass people. They don't feel shame for doing it. To them, getting any sort of reaction to it is the goal. Telling them "you're disgusting" would be giving them attention and something they want.

PSA: When you get unsolicited dick pics, block and report. Don't respond. Don't reward their behavior. If you'd like to go on some crusade to tell their mother (I've seen some people do that lol) that's another topic, but never reply to them directly by saying anything.

It sounds like my experience is a little different from this woman's though, I typically get them after I stop answering. I haven't ever gotten one in the first message. But the "uh, hello??" part tracks with what I've seen. It's attention seeking behavior.

Me neither I did it once after she pretty much threatened to strangle me if I didn't. 🤣 And yes we still have contact to this day.

But I will never send one unsolicited, it's so fucking weird, it's the same as the flashers in the park, what 30 years ago, dumb fucks with no common sense or decency.

And it is so useless, I mean the woman that would like it I wouldn't like, and the woman I would like will hate it. So there is nothing to gain unless you have a really low bar.

both.

How do you whinge?

I've never sent one, because anxiety n stuff. But from talking to the few of my friends that do it works quite often on tinder. They basically treat tinder and and instant hookup app. The flow is basically swipe > wanna hook up here's what i got? > ok come over.

My friend says works 100% of the time on fat women and 15% of the time on the rest. Which is enough to always have a few girls to call over at any time.

It's probably a mix of throwing shit at the fan, power dynamics, the thrill of the taboo and probably a little bit of a humiliation fetish. It's never about the receiver. It's an aggressive act.

A picture is worth a thousand words

"Hi I am...I am looking for sex"

If you are using a dating website and actually trying. You'd look at a profile, read their bio, and then send a message that had something to do with their bio. (Could also comment on pictures)

But it is a numbers game to an extent and most messages sent will never see a reply.

So what is the least effort highest reward thing to send first? Private picture.

They are hoping that the person opens it and it catches their eye.

If their first thought is to send a private picture, they are not really looking for small talk. So it has the added bonus of weeding out non-sexual people.

It's no risk, high reward

Or they just think if they see tits it makes them horny so women MUST be the same way?

This one. The problem is that by the time 90% of the hetro cis male population of one generation has figured this out, a new generation of teen hetro cis males are right behind them. A better sex education class would cover this.

the principle equivalent genital exchange.

they think if dick pic is send vag/boob pic will be the response

Yeah, this seems like an excuse to brag more than anything. Men are gross, but all the extra made me think that dick picks weren't the point of this post.

I don't agree. To me, it helps to emphasize the ridiculousness of coming in swinging with a dick pic instead of starting an actual human conversation and acknowledging that the person you're talking to deserves respect and has more going on than a hole for you to stick something in.

Here, have some unsolitised tits and boobys

Most women learn from a very young age that the real definition of slut is 1) you used to have sex with me and not longer do so you're a slut; 2) I want to have sex with you but you don't notice me therefore you're a slut; and 3) my boyfriend, husband, guy I like thinks you're hot so you're a slut. Doesn't have anything to do with what sex the "slut" may or may not be having. Many women were labelled sluts while they were still virgins.