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Those of you who are not okay: What's going on in your life right now and how could we help you make it better? (lemmy.world)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Money. Simple like that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Answer: you need more money

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Nah, just get rid of the junk so nobody has money. Just trade time for time (aka help each other).

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I have a selection of social anxieties. Many of them revolve around me being let down so many times by people or groups I thought I belonged in. Any time I find some cool group, this feeling creeps up, letting me know "aw shit, here we go again". I'm sure the failures are a self fulfilling prophecy at this point. I suppose the solution would be to ignore all the warning signs and get used to people being genuinely nice (and then walking into the minefield as I ignore the warning signs. And the purgatory restarts).

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm not a religious person but clearly it is giving you support so I'm really glad to hear it.

Do you doodle? I don't, so I used to put paper in top of comics and copy them. And then hang them on stuff like books. Today I'd do a few in my desk, laptop lid and laptop screen wallpaper. You may want to stick it to your phone? I can see that as great conversation starters with common interest.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I've struggled similarly over the years and had my ups and downs. One thing that has helped me is remembering that my feelings are subjective, and not necessarily reflective of reality. My view of the world is often skewed, whether by brain chemistry, various biases, or the influence of others, so I have to seek out what's actually true in any given situation. It helps me; I hope it will help you, at least a little.

Honestly, in my experience, things get better when I exert control over what I can. I'd tell you to control what you can and go easy with the rest. Try to do better every day, really try consciously, and the struggle itself will be rewarding.

I'm rooting for you. If there is a Creator, and I believe there is, he's rooting for you, too.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

People that I love who I want to keep in my life are proving incapable of accepting who I am.

I have a lot of other friends and family, so I'm not without people to talk to, but it's pretty hard to have your spouse and parents and priest so tell you that you need to get mental help and figure out what's real, after you've been getting help and are on the road to accepting yourself...

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Dealing with my father's disability, poverty, living under dictatorship... You know, just the usual things. I just want people to be more compassionate, I think.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I have no meaning in my life. I go to work and I consume and I don’t connect with anyone or help anyone.