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*cue Mulan Make a Man Out of You song
Man, I fuckin love that song. I'm surprised there hasn't been a lot of hate towards it, at least that I've seen. I've seen some pretty vitriolic things aimed at media making far more innocuous implications lmao
"You'll feel better once you go through" IMO fits rather well what OP is asking for. Specially for self-advice.
[mini-rant] People, stop assuming random orthogonal shit into the left-right axis. Seriously.
I can get why "man up" would be typically right-winger due to the sex-based stereotypes. ("Rather curiously" not mentioned by anyone here, right?) However, doing it directly with the "fuck your feelings" is stupid. [/mini-rant]
I'm confused what you mean by your mini-rant. Are you asserting that "fuck your feelings" and "man up" are not right wing coded, but equally likely to come from a leftist? I think theoretically that's maybe true but anecdotally that language does tend to be used by the right and not so much by the left, in my experience
I’m confused what you mean by your mini-rant. Are you asserting that “fuck your feelings” and “man up” are not right wing coded, but equally likely to come from a leftist?
That's an excellent example of what I said just yesterday about sealioning in Reddit: "in Reddit for example your typical sea lion says “I don’t understand, [insert question making a straw man of your proposition]? I’m so confused…”
Drop off the sealion if you feel entitled to a serious answer.
I can assure you that my question was genuine.
I've seen a lot of discussion about sealioning on Lemmy and reddit over the years, and it's never made much sense to me. If I were a right winger trying to discredit your point, it doesn't seem like a good tactic to ask (misleading) clarifying questions. Any decent debater would use those questions to further educate potential readers on the specifics of their argument/ideology.
That being said, I would still appreciate a clarification.
"Fucking pretend you know what you are doing." Always seems to work. Feel how you feel l, and don't shame yourself for fear.
You need to just see this as something that everyone has to deal with. You can feel your feelings still do what you need to do. Ignoring your feelings doesn't make you any more of a man.
"Grow up".
Isn't this just an insult?
It is, but "man up" not only insults that person but also half the people on the planet.
'show your courage'
'what cannot be controlled must be endured'
Grit your teeth
Stiff upper lip
Sisu
Many ways to articulate this
Sisu!!
GSD - Get Shit Done
I don't remember the details but there was an Internet story about a dude who'd say "man up" and people explained why that was a problem and he updated to "fortify". And I really like that, because it kinda suggests also getting help where you need it to build up your defenses in order to face the thing you need to face.
My usual is: Can't stop, won't stop!
Get prehistoric, go full barbarian, hulk it out, become psychosocial.
Buckle up Buckaroo
Edit: The wife and I always use the term "rally". Like, "Here we go a-rallying again" or "we're rally-gals today". So maybe instead of "man-up", you could try "It's time to rally"?
Stoicism
When someone says “Somebody should….”
Remind them we’re all somebody.
Time to shine? There's always old mate at work who has a good one-liner. "The shit jobs are the good jobs" (everyone knows it's a rubbish job so they'll cut you some slack) "Sometimes your the fuckor & sometime your the fuckee" "Weeeel, that's a shitter" "Maybe kick this one back to the brains trust" And so on
"Machines are for breaking & plans are for changing"
Reminds me of a short YouTube recommended to me here. In the second part, it talks about a guy who just tells himself “FORTIFY!!” As a similar vein, it’s pretty funny.
I think the fuck your feelings is part of its effectivness its a reminder they dont matter in the face of the problem and you must work past them. The whole arrogent right wing thing well do u want to change your language to accomodate such people changing what words mean?