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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

@[email protected] You might want to deal with this on your end too, this doesn't seem like the kind of person we want in our communities on blahaj.zone.

 

For those who don't know what gender abolition is. Gender Abolition, also known as post-genderism is the belief that gender stereotypes are harmful and restrict people's ability to present the way they want that makes them feel happy. Gender abolitionists seek to eradicate gender stereotypes and restrictions associated with them to create a more free and accepting world.

For clarification, Gender abolitionists do not agree with TERFs or any similar rhetoric, anyone from those groups claiming to be "Gender Abolitionists" or "Gender Critical" are not real gender abolitionists and are appropriating the term. Real Gender abolitionists believe that people have the right to bodily autonomy and self-identification. That means in short, Gender abolitionists respect and stand up for trans rights.

If any of this sounds interesting to you I recommend checking out

[email protected]

 

As of right now I have disengaged the community's lock and people are free and able to post here. On Federated servers this change may take a while to propagate, especially ones physically farther away from lemmy.blahaj.zone.

Please make sure to follow the rules of the community and lemmy.blahaj.zone when posting.

 

Their new domain is chapo.chat. We should probably block it now so they don't get a chance to use it to bypass defederation of their server by other instances.

After all they were defederated for good reason.

 

[email protected] which was largely created as a backup of the subreddit by the same name is current name is looking for moderators.

In case anyone isn't familiar with what gender abolition is, here's a brief overview. Gender Abolition is the belief that gender roles and gender stereotypes are harmful to people's freedom of expression and must be eliminated to create a more free and accepting society. Gender abolition is sometimes referred to as post-genderism or gender anarchy. More info in the community sidebar.

If anyone would like to help moderate please leave a comment here. Currently we are prioritizing people with accounts on lemmy.blahaj.zone but we will accept moderators from other instances as well.

 

Our community is currently looking for mods. When we get a sufficient amount of community moderators we will open to the public for anyone to post and comment here.

If you are in any way interested in helping us out moderate this community, please comment below.

If you currently moderate the subreddit r/GenderAbolition please leave a comment here and send a message from your mod account to u/Toothless_NEO.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Ah I understand what you were saying now, I wasn't sure exactly and it reminded me of the "Agender Pronouns" thing, glad you didn't mean it that way though.

There are other problems I've had with Hexbear, I've actually been threatened and harassed by several users on that platform, I've also gotten some bad vibes in a few communities there that didn't really make me feel welcome, as a GNC person or as an Agender person. It's hard to describe, it just didn't quite feel right.

But yeah I do hope the user flairs get added to Lemmy at some point, it would be nice to have some of the helpful features from Reddit, like User flairs, and either post flairs or post tags (post tags are probably better since they can federate as hashtags).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Yeah the big issue with Hexbear's way of doing it is that it's kind of forced and can cause discomfort to people who don't want to out themselves yet. I wasn't aware they have undecided or any as options, I've never tried to sign up there and have little desire to considering among other things how isolated it is. Even so I don't think their way of doing it is very good since it heavily limits the options people can use, and locks people out of using display names, which are extremely useful. I think a better solution would just be to increase the length of usernames and display names to accommodate users who might want to use pronouns.

Also just want to point out, it does annoy me a bit when people say Agender pronouns, since Agender people don't have a universal set of pronouns. We all have very widely varied preferences and experiences among us. I don't blame you for that by the way, it's a common misconception about Agender and Nonbinary people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (5 children)

I'm not a fan of forced pronoun badges as an Agender person. Allowing people to have pronoun badges is good but only if it is optional. When it isn't it creates a dilemma where a person has to choose between outing themself, or lying if they don't want to out themselves.

As it is though, their implementation of it simply uses (or rather commandeers) the display-name feature Lemmy has, so in a way we already do have an optional implementation of it for people who want it. It's just not mandated. The way they did it was to replace display names with Pronoun tags and have them be mandatory.

 

Found this article on medium while scrolling through some comments in a post here. I recommend you go read the article, it's very insightful. It basically talks about how some cis people are likely Agender due to their lack of an internal sense of gender, or them not ever thinking about gender. I know that this isn't the only experience of being Agender. Agender experiences can be quite varied and different, and not all Agenders will relate to not experiencing or understanding gender, for some it's just a different feeling of gender, or a different type of feeling.

I do know that a lot of Agender people do though which is why I decided to post this here since I feel it could maybe help some people, or maybe just be an interesting article for people to read

Anyway what are your thoughts on this idea? If you have any thoughts or anything you'd like to add please share in the comments.

 

Lemmy's 0.19.6 introduces some bug fixes but it also introduced a nasty bug which breaks image rendering in many posts See here and since this instance hosts a lot of image based content it would probably be a good idea for us to hold off on upgrading until this is fixed. I do not know yet if this bug will apply retroactively, as in, if all posts made or affected by this will be fixed once a fix rolls out or if they'll be screwed up forever or until editing or re-posting.

I encourage people in instances which have not updated yet to cross-post this to their instance's meta community or ping their instance admins to let them know.

 

Hello, Agender is looking for moderators to help moderate this community. If you think you could help out this community please feel free to reply below explaining how you think you can help this community.

It is recommended but not required that you have an account on lemmy.blahaj.zone to moderate with, and it is strongly recommended but not explicitly required that you have a Matrix account for secure messaging, linked to your Lemmy account.

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c/Agender FAQ (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hello and welcome to our community. This post is mainly to help explain things to people who first come across this community.

What is Agender?

Agender is a gender identity in which people feel very little or lack of any gender identity. The term Agender comes from the greek prefix A- meaning without and gender.

Some Agender people may feel no gender, while others may feel a weaker sense of gender, and others still may feel a strong sense of connection to being Agender. It is very much a spectrum. I created a chart to better help visualize it:

What is Gender modality, I saw it mentioned in the sidebar, so what is it?

Gender modality is complicated, and there's a bit of disagreement on what it is or isn't in the community, as well as whether or not gender modalities are valid.

The most common definition and the definition you'll see when you look up gender modality is:

Gender Modality refers to the correspondence (or lack thereof) between one's assigned gender at birth and one's actual gender and/or gender presentation.
- Gender Modality, on Gender Fandom

I don't disagree with that definition but it feels lacking. I think a good way to explain it that compliments the previous way is that modalities are like groups that can contain other gender identities. Like how on Lemmy there are communities contained in instances. Yeah I know a lot of people will hate that analogy but I think it works. It can be a bit confusing but in general it's just best to respect the way a person identifies, even if it's one of the non-standard gender modalities.

Wait I thought that people were either cis or trans?

Yeah this is where a lot of the disagreement comes in around gender modality. There are some people who do believe that. While others believe that there are multiple gender modalities besides just the two. We here believe that the way a person identifies should be respected and not invalidated, and that means if they identify under one of these other gender modalities it needs to be respected.

What about if someone is in-denial about being trans?

Here we believe that self-discovery is a very important and personal process that should not be ham-fisted like it has been in the past on... certain user forums (egg_irl) this doesn't mean one can't help or support people, that's always encouraged, but they have to want the support. If it is forced or coercive it is not respectful and can even be harmful. Do not try and force people to identify a certain way against their will (This falls under Rule 2).


About the community

This next section addresses various questions about the community, this part is a bit more meta.

Why create this community?

I created this community because one of the communities I noticed that was lacking on Lemmy was an Agender one, there were plenty of Nonbinary ones but not a single Agender one or even aspec one. So I decided to create this one in hopes that it would allow Agender people to feel more at home in the Fediverse.

Why did you choose this instance?

We wanted to choose an instance which has downvotes disabled due to the fact that trolls and bigots very often attack queer people by mass downvoting their posts to supress them and their content. We want to avoid this type of abuse. We originally chose Reddthat for this purpose because it fits that criteria while also being very stable, however we decided to abandon it due to their lack of agency around the threads federation issue, this is especially problematic due to the fact that threads has a severe queerphobia problem. So we moved to lemmy.blahaj.zone as it is our only real option.

~~#### Why didn't you just choose blahaj.zone?~~

~~In the beginning we did consider it but in the end I ended up choosing this instance for a variety of reasons. One reason was when I initially planned this out lemmy.blahaj.zone was having frequent outages and pictrs (image server) issues. So for that reason I went with the next best one Reddthat.com. I may revisit that idea in the future but as is I'll stick with what I've already got set up and go from there.~~ We have migrated our community to blahaj.zone due to concerns regarding Reddthat's lack of agency around threads federation.


If you have any more questions or feedback you'd like to give me just leave a comment below and I'll get back to you. If you want you could also post in our Matrix Discussion Channel.

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