Elara

joined 2 years ago
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Over the past few months, I've been working on legally changing my name and gender. Throughout my journey, I've noticed a glaring lack of information about the process. The information that I could find has been incomplete, outdated, or both. Also, most existing resources assume you know how to do things like send mail, but I'd never done any of that, so I had to figure all of that out for myself, with some help from my amazing friends, of course.

So, I decided to document the entire process in detail to help other trans people who want to do the same. So far, I've only covered updating California state documents and some U.S. federal documents, since that's where I live and what I have experience with. I tried to include answers to every question I had, and details about how in-person visits to various government facilities work so that people like myself wouldn't be as anxious. I also wrote guides on the other skills you'll need to complete this process, including sending mail, filling out checks, etc.

However, this process is different everywhere. I only have experience with California, but I'd like this resource to grow into something that can help people everywhere, so here's how you can help:

  1. Write about your experiences: If you've completed or are working on a legal name and/or gender change wherever you live (including places outside the U.S.), document the process. Once you're finished, contact me (Elara) at [email protected], and I can work with you to get your resources published. Also, feel free to contact me if you need help documenting your experiences or even navigating the name/gender change process itself, and I'll try to help as best I can. You don't have to be an expert or a perfect writer, just sharing what worked for you is enough.
  2. Check existing info: If anything on the website is difficult to understand, incorrect, outdated, or you just feel like a change needs to be made for whatever reason, let me know! I want this resource to stay accurate and helpful to everyone.
  3. Share the resource: If you know anyone or any community that could benefit from or contribute to the information in this resource, tell them about it. I'd like this to help as many people as possible.
  4. Provide feedback: If there's anything you think could be improved, let me know. I'd love to hear your ideas.

Here's the link to the full resource: https://trans.queer.my.id/
And to the California guide specifically: https://trans.queer.my.id/books/california

Feel free to message me here or email me at [email protected] if you're interested about contributing to this or just want to talk about it!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

One of the members of the GenZedong Matrix space recently created a communist Akkoma instance at spectreofcommunism.boo!

What is Akkoma?

Akkoma is like Mastodon but lighter and faster. It's an open source microblogging platform where you can post "microposts". It's kind of similar to Twitter, but actually good :3

Like Lemmy, Akkoma is federated, meaning you can interact with people on other servers regardless of which server you've signed up on (similar to how you can see Hexbear users on Lemmygrad). Akkoma federates with all fediverse platforms, including Lemmy, so you can actually also interact with Akkoma users from Lemmygrad, and vice-versa!

How do I join?

  1. Go to https://spectreofcommunism.boo
  2. Click on Register
  3. Fill in your account info and then answer the vetting questions in the "Reason to register" field
  4. Wait for your account to be approved
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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hello everyone :)

I recently created a Trans room in the GenZedong Matrix space. You can join the GenZedong space by following the instructions in /c/genzedong, and then you should be able to see the Trans room in the room list.

Matrix is a secure chat platform that's somewhat similar to Discord, but encrypted and open source. It's also federated like Lemmy. GenZedong has its own matrix server at genzedong.xyz (run by me on my own infrastructure :3), which has a GenZedong space (spaces are similar to what Discord calls servers). We have lots of rooms (similar to Discord's channels), including the Trans room I've mentioned here.

Join the space today so that we can take over and become the rightful leaders of GenZedong!... uh, I mean so that we can talk about stuff and definitely not take over anything at all... >:3

 

Last-gen AMD GPUs and even some last-gen Nvidia GPUs beat Nvidia's current gen in performance and cost way less. The pricing of 40 series is absurd for the performance it provides.

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I have evolved (lemmygrad.ml)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hello everyone,

You all know me as Arsen6331

A while ago, I had a realization. I realized I was trans.

As with all the other major realizations in my life, my brain has been subconsciously collecting evidence for years, and I had this realization in a single moment. My egg didn't crack, it exploded and shattered violently. Memories containing evidence started popping up in quick succession, from when I was as young as 3 years old, and I had to process all of them. It has been a major emotional rollercoaster.

I've been repressing this for as long as I've been alive, so this makes me very anxious, but now that most of it has been processed, and the most important people have been told, I can tell all of you:

Hello, I am Elara, an Autistic, Trans ML.

Thanks to everyone here. You all were a huge part of my realization. Without you, it might've happened a lot later or not at all.