PubSubSwitch

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[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Love the mix of boots and lingerie! ๐Ÿ˜ป

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I've been curious to try plugs/pegging with my wife (my hole, to be clear). They're a little open to it but extremely worried about smell. Poo grosses them out a lot. I mean, it grosses me out too, but I'm blessed/cursed with a weak sense of smell. My wife is the opposite. The anal aspect itself doesn't bother them, just the risk of ick.

Note that I've done these before by myself, just not in their presence.

What can I do to minimize the risk of smells as much as possible the first time? I think if the first experience is bad it might turn them off to it.

My current thought is to at least start with a plug before anything else because it's less movement. So possibly less risk of smells.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 2 points 5 months ago

Ahhh, I gotcha. I normally just use r/ before subreddits even if I'm off Reddit, especially since most of us are from there. I never did anything on Reddit like that. Only Twitter and Discord.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

What is HentaiAndRoleplay?

But even then, I prefer forum/DMs for RP, not necessarily chat. Lemmy DMs aren't great for it though I'd imagine as it doesn't show the history of the conversation with someone.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 4 points 5 months ago

Nah, I'm more interested in doing it with people. A big part of it is also the creativity and interaction.

 

Erotic roleplay is the only reason I still use Twitter, but I've been phasing out for BlueSky. (It's also the main reason I use Discord.) The only reason I haven't used Mastodon for it is because I haven't found anyone actually doing it on Mastodon.

Maybe there are some communities out there I'm unaware of or they're using different hashtags. Have you found any?

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Cuuuuuuute! This pic goes hard. As in it makes me hard.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I've seen deep couches like that for sale. It's not that odd. Also, I don't find it shocking that a porn studio would have deeper couches for more room to roll around on lol.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Despite being with my wife for nearly half my life, I've never had penetrative sex. It was originally because my wife has severe anxiety about things going inside her, but to be honest there's some hesitancy from me now as well. I've gotten very used to how we have sex and it doesn't involve penetration.

We have a partner now and I think it's something that they'd be open to, but I'm actually pretty nervous about the whole thing.

My desires were always fairly unconventional but the way my wife's and my sex life has developed has really reinforced that. My wife is essentially 100% top at this point. They have no real interest in reciprocation. They're on the ace spectrum so their enjoyment is different. Every once in a blue moon they'll ask for something but it generally doesn't end with them orgasming. All of that to say my main contribution to my sex life has just been becoming enjoyable to watch. I'm usually very vocal and squirmy. I whimper, beg, plead, cry, scream, etc. lol.

It was somewhat validating that one of the first times the three of us had sex together our new partner said they loved what I was doing and that it was definitely turning them on. I felt a lot of pressure to reciprocate for my wife for so long because I didn't want to be one of those lazy partners who doesn't do anything, but that's sort of what my wife wants out of it. Letting go of that was difficult for me. So actually hearing from someone else tell me that what I'm doing is actually enjoyable meant a lot. Not that I ever doubted my wife, but, you know how things are. Like when a stranger compliments your outfit as opposed to someone you know well.

So, that would be the "confession". I'd never describe myself as a virgin, but I've definitely never had traditional sex.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 4 points 7 months ago

My wife and I opened our marriage to a third a few months ago. They've been living with us temporarily while they look for an apartment in the area. We have threesomes pretty regularly. It's pretty amazing right now.

Like many people with ADHD my interests change every few weeks/months... I've been saying my technical muse left and my erotic muse has returned. I've began doing a few erotic roleplays online again. I got really into this hobby about a year ago but stopped around the time I got a job. (I had a lot of free time for a few months lol.) It's been fun!

I'm really trying to pace myself. I took on way too many partners last time. At times I had maybe a dozen going at once. I got caught in this loop where when I was done writing replies and I wanted to keep writing I'd look for new partners. Over time the hobby stopped being something fun and became an obligation I dreaded doing. So I stopped. I'm trying to avoid that this time. Only take on maybe three maximum at a time. If even.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 1 points 7 months ago

This has been something I've been interested in and actually why I logged into this account today. I've gotten back into text erotic roleplay a little but the only places I could ever find enough people interested in this is on Discord servers and on Twitter. When I check the #nsfwrp hashtag on Mastodon I see a handful of posts from a handful of users, but it's not really at any sort of critical mass to be able to find folks (unless you and one of the few people doing it end up being a good match).

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I don't think labels are terribly important for anything other than making communication easier. That said, watching and being humiliated definitely feels like what most would call cuckoldry. But by other definitions, you might not be called a cuckold because you're actively engaged in a sexual activity (regardless of context). Sometimes people use the term to just mean not being involved at all, like if your wife was cheating on you.

It doesn't really matter what you call yourself here. It's not like if what you are doing is technically cuckoldry if that suddenly means it is wrong. As long as everyone is consenting and enjoying themselves it doesn't matter.

All that said, I think most people would call this cuckoldry lol.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This conversation has popped back into my head. Over the last year a friend my wife met over the Internet and at conventions became a mutual cuddle buddy of ours and (with my wife) a romantic interest.

In hindsight I think your story helped nudge me towards it. Around October I began doing erotic roleplay with folks online. A lot of times I wanted to do more stuff with them, like JOI or just involve voice chat or anything but it was always outside of the limits.

After it was clear my wife was interested romantically in our mutual friend we brought back up the topic of poly and where our boundaries really are. To make a long story short, I just picked up my wife from the airport last night after her visiting this friend alone. I'm very happy for them. I've started doing more directly sexual things online with folks as opposed to just roleplay too. We're both as happy as can be still.

Also, your story about what your partner said after the first time reminded me of the first time I went on an online "date" with someone. My wife was actually excited for me and gushed over the details with me and afterwards, later that day she very specifically came and sat with me on the couch and cuddled. It's been a great experience overall. Just like with you, it's helped my wife feel less anxious about needing to be able to satisfy me. It's made the times she actually is in the mood better as well because she feels less stressed.

[โ€“] PubSubSwitch 5 points 1 year ago

Physically, no. Emotionally getting gifts from people you didn't think were that close of friends really makes me happy though. Recently two friends have gotten me things. One of them got me something because I was sad and they're literally going through chemo. Like, girl, wtf, you did this for me while you're on chemo? I couldn't handle it. It broke me.

 

First, let's not split hairs over what is and isn't a fetish. If you consider yourself very into somethingets call that a fetish for the sake of this particular conversation. So like if someone asks you "boobs or ass" and you says "ass" that's not a fetish, but if you think You're into ass more than the average person then let's say that's a fetish. I think some folks may define it as being extremely into something and only that thing. Let's not use that definition for this thread. It's fine if you disagree about how I'm using the term, I just want to be clear about what I mean when I use it here.

The other night I was with friends and someone said they know folks with fetishes that "not even the CIA could get them to admit to" so I'm expecting them to say something horrifying. One of the next things they said was "I don't know anyone with a foot fetish who isn't straight." To be fair, it wasn't necessarily them saying a foot fetish is something that warranted keeping a secret even under a CIA interrogation (I know it is a figure of speech, but still I'd expect something disgusting like scat). After they said that I joking was like "yeah totally, me neither, I don't know anyone into feet" thinking it was obvious I was saying I was into feet. They didn't really pick up on it.

So eventually they got that I was saying I was and I explained it. It feels like the "Joker meme" where it's like "someone says they're really into boobs or ass and nobody bats an eye, say you're into feet and everybody loses their goddamn mind." I explained how it feels weird to be able to comment on cleavage looking good or tight jeans looking good but how is that any different than saying shoes make a foot look sexy?

They asked me why I think people want to hide foot stuff specifically. I have a good answer because I specifically am not into all foot things. A lot of foot fetish stuff you see out there is like "dirty feet" stuff. Like a degrading "I'm making you lick my sweaty toes I haven't washed." And while I like some dom sub stuff, to me that's just gross. The same way I would want to wash my dick if I knew someone was going to suck it. I don't think folks are wrong for that, it's just not what I'm into. And to me that's a very gross kink (no offense). So for me I don't want people to think I'm into that. In addition, a lot of people just view feet as always dirty. Because honestly they usually are, they're not wrong.

But it got me thinking -- having someone sit on your face feels very in vogue right now. It's talked about a lot in horny memes. It's odd to me that folks view that as more okay. You're close to an asshole. A pretty nasty body part. When people say they like ass they usually don't mean assholes, but yet face sitting's Overton window seems to be shifting to be more acceptable to talk about. But it feels like telling someone "I want someone to step on me" which is extremely similar to "sit on my face" feels way more taboo. People joke about both but it seems folks are more serious about the face sit one.

So my question is, what are some taboo fetishes you have and where do you think the line of taboo is?

To me someone face sitting feels just as kinky of a fetish as wanting to be stepped on or given a foot job but for whatever reason feels way less taboo.

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Personal trainer (lemmynsfw.com)
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I'm not sure how to phrase it. I want to be more flirty with my friends. You know, like touchy, cuddling, and stuff, but not as a means to pursue them sexually or romantically. I can't think of a way to phrase this other than "being flirty" versus "flirting" (let me know if you have a better word). I just want to have that physical contact and flirtatious banter but not in a way that makes them feel as if I'm trying to get them to sleep with me or fall in love or something.

Background, I'm a happily married man in my early 30s. My wife and I are bisexual, I'm still mostly closeted and she's out. My wife and I have discussed boundaries and we both know what each other's limits are. We did this because some folks we are friends with had a horrible experience with trying to have an open relationship but one of them kept breaking the rules they set forth so at some point the conversation came to what our limits are. To be totally clear, we aren't pursuing an open relationship. The limits we have are basically touching other people (not genitals) and kissing (not on lips) is fine and don't start to hang out with people "romantically" (a sort of "know it when I see it" thing). The two of us have said how we want to be more physical with our friends and even flirty at times because we both like to express love like that but we were raised in the Bible Belt in Christian purity culture and have a hard time figuring out how to do this. For some people it just feels so natural.

Some examples of things I might want to do are

  • Hold hands or put my arm around them
  • Make flirty remarks about their outfits being attractive
  • Kiss ya homie good night (I say this as a joke mostly but haha jk, unless?)

An obvious answer may be "just ask your friends, you had the same conversation with your wife" but some missing context is that this conversation with her culminated with the boundaries discussion but has been happening slowly for a few years. We've tossed the idea of open relationships around and both decided against it because we don't believe either of us would be able to not get jealous. I'm very concerned that just asking something like this out of nowhere would seem creepy and off putting. On top of that we do have some friends who have seemed to express they wouldn't like this. Obviously I'm not going to do this to people who I believe wouldn't like it, but it concerns me that more people have this opinion than I think.

So, I guess the questions are,

  1. Have you tried to do this with friends? If so, how did it go?
  2. Where would you personally draw the line between "flirty" and "flirting"?
  3. Have you ever tried to ask platonic friends about this? How did it go?
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