SkyNTP

joined 2 years ago
[–] [email protected] 76 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's not just Bikinis. It's all swim wear, saunas in Europe, baths in Japan. It's just socially acceptable and expected in the right context, and that expectation plays a huge role in comfort. The context seems to flip a switch in people's brain.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

People want news. It's a need as primitive as gossip. In fact, gossip is probably the answer to your question. But gossip is neither fast nor reliable, so people will inevitably invent news organizations to satisfy the need, as much as we have invented agriculture to satisfy our need to eat.

Perhaps when you say "news organizations" you intend a much more narrow definition, like maybe a "privately owned news organization"? That's a dramatically different question though.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 week ago (4 children)

An AI message for dating? Have people just given up on living?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago

Hate to break it to you, but for the first time, the younger generation skewed Trump. In fact every demographic skewed Trump. This cancer is affecting all of society, not just a single demographic.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Congrats on your five and a half twins.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

I think this is about chronic, not acute, exposure to alcohol, i.e. developing cancer, not inebriation.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Believe it or not, authoritarian regimes are less stable than democracies.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You didn't mention how long you were together. General rule of thumb, it takes just as long for the feelings in a relationship to fade as it takes for them to grow.

Also, generally speaking, if the breakup is sudden, unammicable, or leaving you confused, that's probably a sign that there was poor communication in the relationship. Relationships are built on communication, not feelings. This is a good time to evaluate how you can be a better communicator. Do not blame or wallow in the shortcomings of your ex, this will just stunt your growth as a person, and perpetuate how you are currently feeling.

My advice, focus on you and your future. 23 is incredibly young. What you are going through and feeling is extremely common. You have lots of time to meet new people, but focus on yourself first.

[–] [email protected] 121 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Imagine living in a society where we collectively decide some people just get all the privilege to themselves, and the rest of us can just roll around in the mud, and everyone is ok and happy with that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

26... and you are giving up already?

My dude.

By the time you are done your agonizing surgery, you and the girls you'll want to be with won't give a crap about those superficial qualities anyway.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

The good news is the first few pounds are the easiest to lose.

The bad news is that you will not see a meaningful difference in just a week, or even one month, not enough to be the only thing keeping you motivated, at least. Depending on what you are after, caloric weight-loss might not even be enough to reach a very specific look, though it will go a long way.

My advice to you: find a way to stay motivated that is not based on results. This needs to be a new mindset, a journey you are undergoing. You'll need a sizable adjustment to your routine. Find a laborious project you are excited about to keep you off the couch and on your feet.

Most importantly, realize that weight loss is almost all about what you eat. It's very hard to go on a caloric deficit just by exercising, because a) exercising will make you more hungry, b) will convert fat to muscle which is heavier (though leaner), and c) it's a LOT more work and time. Instead, physical activity is more of a way of attaining a deficit without an extremely boring diet of lettuce and it also takes away opportunities to eat out of boredom.

You'll feel more hungry than you are used to, especially in the first couple of weeks as your body learns a new metabolic normal. Drink lots of water to both stay hydrated, and to feel full.

 

This is currently my primary frustration with Connect: complete opaqueness regarding instances.

I understand that one design philosophy might argue that instances shouldn't matter, so why show it at all. But it does matter, especially on All, and in comments. I think at the current and near-term state of development, obscuring instances creates more confusion than it alleviates.

  • In this example, I have no idea what community this is. Where is "here"? "General" is a super broad category (does a multi-community even make sense for this type of community name?). Is this /c/general for a general purpose instance, or /c/general of an instance dedicated to a very specific topic? Is that instance worth checking out? Who knows?
  • Is this an instance I'm subscribed to yet?
  • is this the same /c/general I was in last time with a moderation policy and moderators I didn't like, or a new one?
  • Is my instance defederated from seal_of_approval and will they receive my message? Who knows?
  • Are most responders coming from lemmy.world, from sketchy instances loaded with bots or is there good traction from smaller instances? Is there instance brigading going on?
  • Is this an impersonator of seal_of_approval?
  • is this a specific community that spams a lot and I should block it?
  • What moderation rules apply to this instance?

I can't block entire instances myself...

I realize that a lot of these problems have some sort of workaround by drilling down into community details and profiles. Ain't nobody have time for that.

I realize that specific UI solutions could be introduced to tackle each of these problems individually in a user-friendly manner. But we're not there and who knows when we will get there.

view more: next ›