caiman

joined 1 year ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Honestly, my only thought right now is "?"

We cannot really help you further b/c you have hidden behind an alt account

I don't understand this, do you think I'm someone else from here that's using an alt? Because if you do, I'm not, you got it wrong.

So ask yourself: why have irl conversations at all - especially when you know they will turn ugly?

I do avoid some conversations IRL because I know they will get ugly and me giving my opinion isn't necessary or important. There's a saying in my country about never discussing politics or religion. Seeing how some people can get when you disagree with them, I've found it wise to follow it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The people that need to "win" drive me crazy. It's not enough to them if you concede on some points, it's not enough if you agree to disagree, they just have to be right 100%, and you realize they won't be happy unless you say "Sorry, I was wrong and you were right." and bow to their superior intelligence.

I've made the mistake of engaging with people like this before and it was a nightmare. Like you said, they wouldn't just drop it, even after I explicitly said "Sorry, but we are going in circles here, we should just end it." after an hour long discussion, where they could've easily taken their "W" from me walking away.

 

I've been doing this for some time now. Even if it's something that I consider important.

I just don't see the value in participating in a discussion that I have seen countless times already where the same points and arguments happen over and over again. One that I know wilI turn ugly. It's exhausting and I've decided to just opt-out.