First time I've ever seen someone I know on here. xD
Yeah. If you give me access to the current system, I could migrate it to a new server in a few hours. I host with DigitalOcean, so they support pretty much anything imaginable.
I'd be interested in taking over or helping moderate. I run several servers already. I'm a software engineer. Hit me up on DM and I'll tell you my IRL identity and my GitHub.
Does it matter if LemmyNSFW gets defederated? I don't really care to see regular stuff on here. I'm here for porn.
I'm not in favor of banning things that aren't illegal (or illegal adjacent like loli). It would be awesome to be able to automatically filter things like scat, but outright banning it in my mind sends the message that this instance is not friendly to niche communities.
There are a lot of niche communities on here, anal, pregnant, trans, tiny tits, milf, gay. Anyone could find these offensive. If this instance isn't friendly to scat, it shouldn't be friendly to those communities.
Ban fetishes that are illegal or hurt people. Otherwise, let people filter them. That's my two cents.
It sounds to me like they are in the wrong, so I'm not sure what to do other than say, whatever. Not everyone is reasonable.