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NTA

Yes and no. You allowed him to go on his run, so punctuality wasn't going to happen and you knew it. You also had history with him.

That being said, three hours is not late; it's completely disrespectful.

NTA - sounds like you might be taken advantage of, even if it is for a good cause since the kid is an innocent party in all this.

Doesn't excuse the mother's behavior though. Remind her that you tackle a majority of the responsibilities, and she would have to clean the place no matter where she lived.

If she believes the grass is greener on the other side, politely let her find out. Hindsight is almost always 20/20.

No but you may have limited options. I would explain to them exactly what you stated here - you plan on getting drunk, relax, and have fun with friends. That doesn't mix with babysitting.

Hopefully they appreciate your situation. If they can't, then you will have to decide which is more important in the long term.

NTA - very unfortunate that both your parents are using you that way. IMO, the best thing for you is to try your best to remain calm but firm. Getting upset and loud will not help your relationship with them. If you have to bite you lip, or count to 10 before answering, do it. Sooner or later it will be over and things should go back to normal a little more.

NTA - his ego wrote a check his body couldn't cash. It's why the military are supposed to exercise every day, even if it's light (I served 5 years; wife served 22).
I've been in your husband's shoes; not taking it seriously enough and getting burned when it counted. I regretted it later, and in some respects I still regret it now. Hopefully he'll use this as self-motivation. If he does, cheer him on. If he doesn't, let him know that you enjoyed wrestling him last time and smile!

If your job includes impromptu trips then you may not have a choice, other than to quit before you planned to.

Certainly explain you situation, but if you've accepted previous trips like this your options may be limited.

Maybe not complete AH but very uncool and unnecessary. I can see why she's not talking to you.

In this scenario, I see you now as a boss and your wife and the housekeeper as your servants because you get the benefit of a completely clean house just because you can afford it.

Might work out for you financially but unless you enjoy snuggling up to your money every night I suggest you find a more reasonable solution.

NTA - very unfortunate, but ultimately necessary.

NTA. Perhaps not the best response, but in the end you chose what trip you wanted to go on the most. Everyone will have a good time, and hopefully there will be other opportunities.

I think a third party would help at this point. Someone like a therapist or a priest who can help explain both sides and present the best options.

NTA. You can certainly apologize for losing it, but in the end it is your choice, not hers.