leigh
joined 2 years ago
comment removed, the post I was replying to was deleted — I think I was seeing a cached version — so no need for me to say anything.
No worries, things happen — and you’re community-building volunteers, not an on-call rotation. 💜 I’m just glad we’re back now! Thanks for your efforts during these past 24 hours. 🏳️⚧️😊
Just FYI, I have side-channel confirmation that our instance’s admin is aware and looking into it.
Seems that way, yeah. Fortunately they only seem interested in the front page, but I see this fine in Memmy and can open the post itself via web.
Hah, good one. 😆 And ‘grats to your sister! It’s a big step. 😊
💯 A cishet person who treats “ally” as a verb is WAY more helpful than one who only wears it as a noun.
Other people here are already doing a great job of covering the “what we think” and “whether welcome in queer spaces or not” aspects of your question, so let me dive into this part instead:
…someone who’s not in the space or actively an ally. I would more accurately describe myself currently as a “don’t care” person in the sense that to me it genuinely does not matter what someone identifies as or who someone is attracted to.
Ever watch the TV show Ted Lasso? There was a scene in the final season where one of the players on the football (soccer) team came out as gay. The other players tell him they “don’t care”, meaning to be supportive but not actually succeeding. Ted gives a speech and, as his character admits afterward, makes a poor comparison — but still does a good job of communicating to the others that they should care. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcaUZ9R0y2c
So, like… I’m glad you’re not antagonizing any of us, but that’s just kind of the bare minimum for being decent, you know? And that is somewhat similar to racial discrimination: as a white person in North America, telling Black people I “don’t care that they’re Black” would tell them I haven’t considered that being Black is something core to their identity and how they experience the world because of the way society works. It would tell them I still see whiteness as the “default” but it’s “okay” to be something else. It would tell them that I might say something if I witnessed blatant racism happening, but they shouldn’t count on me to do so because I haven’t made any effort to learn how racism actually works and I might back down if I feel speaking up would put myself at any risk. But I do care, so I try to educate myself, and I look for opportunities to practice anti-racism. I absolutely make mistakes, but they tend to be easily forgiven so long as I show a willingness to listen, learn, and try.
But hey… I freely admit that I was way older than 18 when I finally started listening to people and began understanding all of this! So I absolutely don’t mean to “rake you over the coals” or anything. I just tell you these things because I hope you grow into a better person faster than I managed to. 🙂💜
P.S. When I transitioned, I had this mantra which I found immensely helpful: “There is not one damn person on the face of this earth I ever have to see again if I truly decide I don’t want to.”
“Truly” is a heavy decision to make, but there’s always some way to push them forever out of your life and keep going. Often very difficult, but the option is there. 💜🏳️⚧️
Assuming you’re trying to call a place/person who offers HRT regularly, try to remember that the person who answers your call has received this same call many times before and wants to help you get what you need. And it’s okay for you to ask for what you need. You deserve to get what you need.
Alternatively, remember that the longer you delay, the longer you still have way too much testosterone flowing through you. 😉
It’s scary to take these big steps, but you’re traveling a well-worn path walked by we who came before you. 💜
not supplying them to Ukraine gives russia an advantage, thus being against the US supplying them to Ukraine is de-facto a pro-russian stance.
I strongly disagree with you here. I’m not against providing any weapons to Ukraine, I just believe there are better options than cluster munitions — options which won’t still be killing civilians in the decades to come. I don’t believe that cluster munitions are in any way essential to Ukraine’s defence.
Ukraine and its allies can’t do anything (short of surrendering, which I certainly don’t advocate) to stop Russia’s use of them, and there will be long-term consequences. But that doesn’t make it a good — or even neutral — idea to add on additional long-term consequences. The more unexploded ordinance, the more danger to residents in the future.
The name is way too similar to the Firefox trademark and could create the impression that Firefish is associated with Mozilla. I suspect some lawyers are currently in a huddle trying to figure out how to send a Cease and Desist letter that won’t completely piss off the community.
(Trademark law, at least in the US where Mozilla is headquartered, requires organizations to actively defend their trademarks. So just ignoring Firefish would be risky, even if they don’t actually mind the similarity.)