Thank you. I'm coming up on three years in a couple of months.
A company called Notch. The alcohol-specific ones are here and they support a UK charity called Alcohol Change here in the UK.
I have "Sobriety rocks" in gold, then the various day count ones, and IWNDWYT 😁in purple, and "get your calm back 2022" in gold.
Mine are all on a loop attached to my keyring, but they do a couple of other ways of holding them as well.
Rewards are important. I don't have coins but I do have these on my keyring - metal discs for ~~30~~ Edit 31, 60, 100, 365 and 1,000 days
That connection to the Other goes under many guises. Always has, always will. Thomas Aquinas referred to "the Prime Mover", Thomas Merton referred to the many paths up the mountain.
Alcohol is a poison, it's not rewarding yourself to poison yourself.
Have a good dinner and watch a film, instead.
gotta 12 step myself on weed too. not keen.
One thing at a time, one thing at a time.
I've seen people do the "I'm going to get sober and I'm going to stop smoking and I'm going to start [an unfeasible exercise programme from scratch] and I'm going to lose weight and ..." thing and it never works out as they hoped.
So my advice, which is worth what you paid for it, obviously, is to take it easy. Get a stretch of sobriety under your belt before making any other changes. You may find that your weed use decreases naturally anyway, and you can start the 12-step programme when you're in a different headspace with it.
What scuppered me for a long time was not having non-alcoholic drinks at home that I actually liked (apart from coffee, but I don't drink that past noon). So I'd go to the fridge, and there'd be nothing, and I'd go "ugh," and go and buy wine. So that's my first tip - get some nice drinks in that you like.
Good stuff. It may also be worth asking the guardian why they did that when they come back, because at best it seems a remarkably thoughtless thing to do, and at worst, actively malicious and cruel.
Is there someone you can call to take it away?
Proud of you for doing this.
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this stuff is hard and there is exactly zero reason to make it harder on yourself than it needs to be. Congratulations on your one month!