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This is a community to find, share and discuss ways to improve in any and all aspects of life. Self-improvement (mental, physical, social etc) Resources can be shared here. Share links to websites, videos, books etc about bettering oneself and ask and give advice on any situation. This is a negative judgement free zone. Only positive feedback is welcome.

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And learning from the mistakes of others (part added by OP)....

Via article:

Tl;dr: they did way more squats than their normal routine. Their muscles released too much of a toxin (dead muscle fibers via rhabdomyolysis) and caused kidneys to not be able to get rid of all it needed to, causing kidney damage/failure. This doesn't always happen if a person is regularly engaged in intense exercise.

So when the article mentioned that they "Weren't used to exercising in general"

My first reaction was:

Talk about overestimating your capabilities. Good reason to point out that everyone has limits and in order to push those limits, one needs to work up to it.

So I decided to reflect:

There is much to be said about these kinds of things

"It's said that a wise person learns from his mistakes. A wiser one learns from others' mistakes. But the wisest person of all learns from others' successes." -John C. Maxwell.

While it is always advantageous to learn something from our mistakes, we have to discern when to learn from someone else's mistakes or another's success. Because someone with experience is said to have made a series of mistakes, learned from them and can therefore tell us the multiple things that we shouldn't do, based on what they are doing, successfully. We ask ourselves, or them, why they do something a certain way and not another, and are often met with the answer or discovery that it doesn't work that way, or it is less efficient. So, we trust those with experience over knowledge, because of this and the fact that experience is more often than not, knowledge applied, tested and proven.

This doesn't mean to always observe how another succeeds in a given task. There are times such as this article which illustrate the invaluable wisdom gained when we observe, note and apply what we learn from the mistakes of others. This also does not place any hierarchy on the three; both learning from our mistakes, other's mistakes and other's successes, as well as our own successes, can be equally invaluable. What is foolish is relying solely on one of these methods, and always ignoring the rest.

"The 1000-squat challenge is a fairly common challenge" but the lesson is to know that those who do it have some sort of regular exercise, and generally have healthy enough bodies to withstand and endure such. It is also noted that this instance is rare, but moreover just because there is a low likelihood, doesn't mean one should go about it unprepared, or unready.

In my early twenties, I had gained a significant amount of weight. Naively, I went right in to exercise apps with challenges, after being somewhat sedentary for a few years. I hadn't realized then, just how out of shape I was. Of course, I wasn't able to really complete them at first which was lucky for me, I might have sprained something or twisted another. I made a slow and steady approach after that.

Over the years, I learned just how important gradual improvement and intensity was. Not only is it great to start small when exercising, but in almost any other endeavor. Granted, there can be exceptions, but for the most part "one small step" can be a much more fortified and safe strategy, when gradually working up to "one giant leap" than just jumping directly in the deep end. We tend to expose ourselves to much more problems that way.

Everyone has their own strategy and there truly is not a right or wrong answer, just evidence based on the observation and experiences of oneself and others. Overall, if something becomes too challenging, and perseverance seems like it isn't enough, a change of perspective might help such as breaking one's goal into smaller and smaller steps to the right difficulty for them.

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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is an evidence-based psychotherapy that combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with Zen Buddhism. Created by Marsha Linehan, it was originally used to treat Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Now it is used to treat many different emotional dysregulation and impulse control disorders and symptoms.

DBT starts with Mindfulness

There are great ways to track emotions, urges such as SH, and progress in mental wellness: Diary Cards

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Read Article for explanation of chart.

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If you can’t decide what direction you want to go in life, that’s automatically your #1 goal in life — to figure out where you want to go.

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A better guide to well-being and human progress is whether people can achieve their goals and fulfill their values.12 The good life is one of constantly discovering, pursuing, achieving, and maintaining values.

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This is a community to find, share and discuss ways to improve in any and all aspects of life. Self-improvement (mental, physical, social etc) Resources can be shared here. Share links to websites, videos, books etc about bettering oneself and ask and give advice on any situation. This is a negative judgement free zone. Only positive feedback is welcome.

Two types of posts:

Resources and Advice: these are usually either met with a link to something invaluable or interesting that could help someone in a particular aspect of life. or just a post with good advice or tips on wellness in any life category.

Asking for advice or empathy: These posts are descriptive of a situation or problem and asking for advice and/or empathy. Any post mentioning that they do not want feedback should be respected and only met with empathetic responses rather than suggestions.

Note: All projects have to start somewhere, an I am only one person. I want a community where we all help each other with resources and advice in any aspect of life. I will do my best to add the resources (websites, articles, videos etc) that I have but I hope others will add invaluable resources on mental, physical, social health, even financial and career help would be beneficial to self improvement and providing positive and practical advice to those wanting to grow.

Feel free to add any personal experiences as a post with details on how you overcame the situation.