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I saw a post about Firefox has been going downhill in terms of privacy protection, and figured it was time to take some action. I saw LibreWolf was a decent alternative, but wanted to go all the way and get my laptop off Mac OS while I was at it. So, after some difficulties, I installed Debian Linux and am writing my first post that's not from Jerboa on my phone!

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A few years back (2-4 idk) there was a telegram group for GenZedong, but it was taken over by some weird imperialists that completely renamed the group etc and started called China anticommunist etc. Why did this happen and is there a new group anywhere for chatting, or were they all taken down with the new EU/US/GB legislations over the past years?

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Apparently Canada’s sovereignty is at risk.

This is not surprising for my school because if you’re familiar with my posts you’ll recall the neo-Nazi library display I shared around a year ago.

This flyer is definitely not an official university poster as it’s not the same size or paper quality. Someone random must have put it up, they’re either a lone wolf or part of the “Ukraine club” at my school.

My day was already pretty shit but this is just annoying to see.

Edit: here are the QR code links:

https://u24.gov.ua/

https://youtu.be/2mEZsgQh54U

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Mine has to be cop procederals and paper money.

A)I just like solving mysteries and problems and have a natural deference to authority figures, so I've watched way too many cop shows. The only one I'm not ashamed to name is The Wire, which is really good and probably is the only one with genuine substance.

B)It's not the concept of money I enjoy, i just like having a physical thing I exchange to get another physical thing. I..."dislike" per se, using numbers on a screen to get food or something.

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You can't make this shit up lmao. This goes beyond satire.

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To preface, it is correct that the cultural revolution was a mistake and to a certain extent revisionist, along with causing great harm. However,

I watched the documentary "how Yukong moved the mountains" a while back. It's a good watch if you have the time(and trust me, you need a lot of time), and honestly I can't help but feel a little jealous.

The documentary shows worker self management, military egalitarianism, etc. (I'm unsure how much these things exist in China today. I know workers control the means of production but I dont know the spirit in which said management occurs over there, per se. And the military I just know very little about)

Its astetics, and I know this. I also know it doesn't matter whether the cat is black or white, as long as it catches mice. But in my, perhaps a little too idealistic, heart, I do wish we could eat our cake and have it too. Have that same society so focussed on socialist principles while also having the development of modern China.

Idk, maybe we'll see in a few years as china develops into a modern socialist country, but for now I like fantasizing, alright?

Edit:I think maybe boring is the right term for it. When I study revolution and imagine potential revolution, I don't tend to imagine a result that's similar to my own current existence, just slightly better. I want things to be radically different, avant-garde even. Even if i can logically reconsile the necessary requirements for the development of higher stages of socialism, my emotional part wants more.

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So for anyone who has come across my previous posts, you might know that I started taking DIY HRT for feminizing myself after the dutch healthcare system (horrid wait times) failed me. Then, I tried working up the courage to tell my parents about my issues, only to chicken out. Also, I am not actually sure about what my gender identity really is.

So basically, everything about my future is super uncertain.

Now I'll be providing some new information. First, for anyone wondering what I've decided of my identity after much introspection, I think I'll just go with non-binary or gender fluid for now.

Next, I tried probing my mom for her opinion on LGBTQ people as a commenter suggested. Her immediate reaction was to call LGBTQ people "crazy" and "improper" and that I shouldn't associate with them. I told her about how some parents throw out LGBTQ kids on to the streets. She said that's not done anymore. That's incorrect, but at least it seems like she might not abandon me? Finally, when I asked her what if I was queer, she tried backtracking and said that she was just joking about them being crazy.

Whether or not that is true, I can't bring myself to tell my parents anything. Which is funny I guess since they always make a big deal about how I should be fully open with them.

Enough ranting about my parents though.

Finally was the suggestion someone made to find a psychologist specializing in helping LGBTQ individuals. This has turned out to be a disaster in its own way. Navigating Dutch healthcare without speaking Dutch is already difficult, but my GP also has no experience with anything related to LGBTQ people. Supposedly, he has dealt with 1 other case in his entire career, and that case "solved itself" (no idea what that means, kinda ominous though).

The psychologist I was recommended to (and who hasn't sent me a single communication) is rated 1.8 stars on google maps 💀. People keep complaining about how terrible the service is. Every psychologist I look to has people complaining about poor documentation, people being kicked out of programs. Intrusive questioning. Absurd wait times.

At this point, you might as well butter me up and serve me with jam because I'm toast. Absolutely cooked.

Knowing how bad things are in 2025, I have a new found respect for people who had to deal with this in ye olden days.

To conclude, I have no idea what to do with my life at all. I'll still be taking my hormones and playing dress up. Maybe I'll start voice training soon. My current plan to deal with the future is to retreat into a bubble of delusion and isolation until everything comes crashing down.

Thank you for listening to my ramblings.

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Look at this chud video here.

It's just complaining about DEI, but why now? Apparently, Firefox has a "license" to all your data now. How much is that true? Is he just cherry-picking here, in this case? Librewolf or whatever it's called might be a better option. There's also Zen browser.

I got this in my YouTube feed and didn't know it was more anti-DEI slop and now I'm not sure what to believe. Wish they didn't have to make it so political like they accuse others of doing. Ah well. But what is this I hear about Firefox having a "license" to all your data?

I guess that's like a lot of browsers, tbh, but I suppose Firefox has higher standards, or did...

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I'm making a post on mutual aid too, but sometimes I make posts on there, even up to three over a week or so, and get no response. I understand there are so many people needing help there and so I am making one here too for extra visibility. My last request on here asking for help with medical supplies didn't get a response, I really hope this one does.

A couple of people on here over the past few months have helped me out before, and I am so grateful. There is no way I could have managed without your help. For those who haven't seen my posts before, I'm in the UK and going through a disability benefit appeal. I've been unable to buy food due to lack of money and all the people who are supposed to help - the food bank, citizens advice, macmillan etc, haven't given me the help I need.

The food bank can take up to two weeks to access and then give only three days of "food," and the food mostly consists of tea, coffee, milk, sugar, doritos and similar things that are non-nutritious and non-filling. Organisations like macmillan and the citizens advice just keep fobbing me off and passing me to each other. No-one wants to take responsibility. The good social worker I had who used to help me moved to London and the social work department is now staffed by bureaucrats who do the bare minimum to get their paycheque. So I had no-one to help me until I found this site. I was starving for a while and ended up being diagnosed with several deficiencies but all they did was prescribe me iron and a few other supplements on the NHS. I still didn't get any food.

In fact I had thought I was going through an early menopause as my periods had slowed down so much it got to the stage I hadn't had one in months. But this month - after being able to eat normally for a while thanks to the help I've received on here - I got a normal period and realised that my periods had actually stopped due to malnutrition. Thanks to people on this site I am no longer amenorrheic.

I received a letter from the DWP (British benefit nazis) recently, saying that my benefit appeal is still in the queue, they have a backlog to get through before me. Which is their own fault, because they re-assess people too frequently. So this will be dragging on a while longer.

My grocery bills are also more expensive at the moment. I had foot surgery 5 weeks ago and I've been unable to wear shoes so I've had to order groceries for delivery, which costs more. I'm having another foot surgery on 24th April so it'll be like this for a while yet. I also need to use these vouchers for other things like toilet paper, literally everything I need.

As mentioned before, I would prefer not to take money because of the DWP. So if anyone is able to help me out with some food vouchers, I would be extremely grateful. Sainsburys supermarket gift cards are easy to order, and several supermarkets local to me are also on justeat. They can be ordered on various different ways and sent to my email address.

This site takes debit card, credit card and google pay:

https://www.sainsburysgiftcard.co.uk/

These sites take debit, credit card and paypal:

https://www.prezzee.uk/store/sainsburys-uk-gift-card/

https://www.prezzee.uk/store/just-eat-uk-gift-card/

This one takes crypto:

https://www.bitrefill.com/gb/en/gift-cards/sainsburys-in-store-digital-uk/

https://www.bitrefill.com/gb/en/gift-cards/just-eat-uk/

I would be so grateful for any help at all.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

I am pretty lonely as I am not in any college class this semester and need more friends, I would love to have some I could meet in person, but I have no way to get around, and I am more than a dozen kilometers to the nearest town. If anyone here wants to be friends, message me or leave a comment and I'll share my Discord, Steam, and/or SimpleX.

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So Ukraine has turned into a shit show with on the one hand Russia and on the other hand the US and EU. It is clear that Ukraine is merely a pawn in their chess game. This is clear to me.

I try to make it clear to my surroundings too but one question keeps coming back to me whenever it comes to peace talks: what about what Ukrainians want? Should they accept a split in their country with Russia seizing captured land?

I noticed that I do not have a clear answer to this and I wanted to see some input from you guys. Peace talks should imo be the goal as it would be the end to a bloody conflict and it would further (even if slightly) reduce risk for a bigger war. But it is also clear that Ukraine is just a pawn in those peace talks and everything will be decided between the US and Russia. Is it realistic to acknowledge Ukrainian interest in this? And if so, to what extent can leftist support said interests?

Thank you in advance for your answers. It might make it easier for me to go against the warmongering that has been going on lately, and to prevent people close to me from falling for it.

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I guess you have to celebrate the good times when you can. For anyone who might be ardently following the adventures of Curse Avoider, I realized that I'm doing weirdly well today. No symptoms whatsoever. I had a 2h convo with a friend about their video game without even realizing until after it was over that I didn't get queasy once. After that I took a shower and brushed my teeth -- brushing and mouthwashing usually gets me on the brink of puking, but nothing either.

However I'm also not too optimistic about it. It's possible that I'm just in a good period, or having just one good day. Tomorrow may be entirely different. If not tomorrow, then next week will probably swing back the other way.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the 2 anti-emetics I took on Wednesday, but they would probably be out of my system by now, 48 hours later. Or maybe it's because I took my blood thinner right after eating, which I usually don't do. I usually take it maybe 15-30 minutes before or after eating at the very least.

Definitely will have to repeat the last one again to see if it helps. But it can also be completely coincidental -- I also had some good times last year without symptoms, and then they came back a few weeks later.

I'm supposed to meet up with someone tomorrow, make some pocket money (private IT work, it funds my caffeinated drink addiction lol) so I'm hopeful I'll be able to do everything in one sitting because it's gonna be a long job.

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So like...I'm not repulsive. People actually really like talking to me. I don't make people upset and no one ever dislikes me. But...no one ever wants to hang out with me or talk to me without me intiating or already being in the same place.

It's not like I'm boring either. I have interests and hobbies and a personality of a sort, but it feels like no matter what I do I'm always having to insert myself into groups and such, and no one ever thinks "hey, i should invite him to do x."

I know you can't give exact answes without knowing me personally, so if anyone has general experience with feeling like this any general advice is appreciated

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Frankly?

I could use stuff like this. YouTube is addicting me and taking up too much of my time.

If y'all have any other recommendations, let me know.

Might even go on PeerTube directly and see how it compares. Oh yeah, and the FreeTube option seems 'ight.

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I realize that I love my cat.

But I want another one for her.

Should I go for it?

I feel like it will help be a new beginning for me.

I just feel bad about something and guilt eats me up right now. I, well, caused a problem for my own Mom and have hurt our relationship. And I realize that now. We've talked about it some. We're fine, right now, but I... feel the guilt, dammit.

Regardless, I want to at least help my current cat by giving her a new companion.

Ugh, I feel silly saying it.

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I'm stressed out over the appointment I have next week with the welfare office because if they don't want to accomodate my health needs then I'm shit out of luck. I'm just stressed out, and I told my therapist all of this, and told her I can feel a panic attack coming -- I don't know when exactly, but I feel that if this keeps going like this with me being shuffled around I will start having panic attacks. She told me to focus on the positives lmao.

Like yeah my dr gave me anti-nausea medication but I had to take 2 of them for them to work today. You're allowed 3 a day AT MOST because this type of medication is no joke. I puked on the fucking side of the street (after which I took the 2nd dose) while going to my appointment and this is apparently considered normal. Apparently I should just accept that I humiliate myself on the street every time I go out and puke my guts out in front of everyone. And I have no idea if this medication will work again next week, or how long it works. My dr prescribed it "just in case" bc it's better to have it than not have it. But I have to test out how to take it and when by myself. The therapist said "well but at least you've been able to make it to all our appointments so far" I think to help me but it's just making me worry now that they will use this against me. I don't go to the appointments because "I can". I go because it's better than not going even if it's torture for me. Do you tell a fucking cancer patient (bc that's the example my shitty hematologist used) "Well at least you come to the chemo appointments so how bad can cancer be 🤪" fucking dipshits. I have to pace my schedule and time and not overload myself. I can do one, maybe 2 things a week if I'm in a good period (I'm not in a good period rn). Otherwise it exacerbates the symptoms. I don't consider forcing me to behave like an able healthy person to be either ethical, reasonable, or just. I may go take a first opinion with a lawyer tbh at this point.

All I want is to have the space and time to focus on my health for now until I get back to a more optimistic mindset but nobody in the medical body seems to understand that. You treat patients like shit then when they get depression or anxiety disorders your reaction is "gosh if only there was something we could have done to prevent this" YOU fucking caused this jesus. I'm fucking hanging on on well wishes from fucking doctors. What if the welfare office doesn't want to accomodate me because I don't have a certificate? What if the 2nd hospital offers no option? What if I have to monitor with blood tests every week for the rest of my life? What if I can't make it to my apt next week or another time, and have to cancel, and they tell me to go to my dr to get a certificate, and the dr doesn't want to do a certificate, and so the welfare office closes my case because I cancelled "without justification"? They will do that.

My 2nd hospital opinion is scheduled on the 21st of march. That's a month away. I won't have any solution until then at the latest. And you can plead and tell them how difficult it is all you want, they will follow the fucking procedure because if they don't it can cause problems for them and we wouldn't want that would we. Anything but not following proper procedure.

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I remember seeing people talk about the three body problem a while back, and in discussion about censorship someone brought up the book I'm talking about. If i remember right it wasn't censored, but it involved like, conspiracy plots (fictional I mean) and corruption in the cpc (not systemic though). I also think it's either an adaptation or at least has tbe same name as an American novel with a similar plot.

Sorry if that's not enough information, I'm not gonna cry or anything if I can't find it. I'm just curious.

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This is an honest question really I'm not trying to make fun of anarchists.

I was just wondering if the typical anarchist outfit (black everything, more punk looking) is required of anarchism or if they just decided to dress like that en masse.

I get the need at protest to become unrecognizable and to cover your face but I have met many anarchists who dressed up like that minus the face cover at other left wing events without police present.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

Being nice doesn't save lives. I spent a pretty crummy Monday because I received a letter from the welfare office and they want to meet me next week, and it pulled me into a spiral. I'm doing better now, I think.

But anyway. It got me rethinking some stuff and listen comrades, don't let people be incompetent just because they're "nice" or friendly. Being friendly doesn't save lives. I used to be like that too when I was unsure of my skills or didn't have experience. I thought being nice and friendly with other people would make up for it. It doesn't. Everybody knows you're a fraud, you know you're a fraud, and you hope they won't say anything about you being a fraud because at least you get along well.

I'm done making excuses for others tbh. My hematologist may be "friendly" but if she can't help me she can't help me. It's not my job to make excuses for her i.e. "I'm sure she's trying her best" or "at least she answers my calls". The current situation is that she and that shithole hospital can't answer my needs and I need to advocate for myself. You need to advocate for yourself too. If someone seems like they're trying to pull you into some bullshit just say no, get up and leave. I'm done with frauds and other sweet talkers. And I'm done being nice to cover up for people who refuse to help. I don't owe them anything.

Everyone is just trying to save their skin by shuffling problems around to other departments so they never have to take any responsibility for it. Almost everything in my current situation is provided or owned by the state - the hospital, the welfare office, and the unemployment office I will have to register for probably. And everyone just wants to shift you around so you're not their problem but someone else's. The hospital doesn't want to write a certificate because what if they get audited and have to justify it. The welfare office doesn't want to accomodate to your disability needs without a certificate because what if they get audited.

I also need to stop minimizing my symptoms and be clear about how debilitating they are. I think I got better at this. But this means stopping being "nice". But being nice doesn't save lives, competence does.

EDIT: you should be both nice and competent if you can! But if I have to choose, I'm choosing competence over friendliness. Nobody likes an asshole but sometimes you have to be one, and sometimes you'd rather have one on your side because at least they know what they're doing.

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Liberals always tell me to vote with my wallet. So i make sure i always buy chinese made products when available. Apparently this is not what they meant, and they don't like it. 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈

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My landlady's dog was barking at the door this morning, so I opened it and there was a big brown, very skinny cockapoo-type dog out there. No idea how she got in, the garden is totally enclosed and the walls are at least 7 foot high. We checked the cctv in case someone had thrown her in but saw nothing. It's like she just materialised. We took her to the vet to see if she had a microchip and she does but they were unable to read it. They said we should call the local kennel to come and take her and now my landlady is waiting to hear back from them, but I'm worried her owners are neglectful or abusive, she's clearly starving and cried with terror when we took her to the vet. She seems to have a skin illness as well. I've checked online but no-one has reported her missing. I'm worried if she gets sent back to her owner she could end up being a breeding dog on a puppy farm or something, she looks so starved and neglected. we gave her some food and she wolfed it down instantly.

EDIT: Eventually with the microchip we found her vet. They told us the owner hadn't brought the dog for a check up for several years and that they had been concerned about the dog's welfare prior to that. They told us which road the owner lives on and gave us her phone number. we called and she checked outside and said her dog had returned. We checked in our garden and the dog was gone. So it looks like she went home of her own accord. However I am very concerned for her welfare. She's skin and bones, untreated skin condition and clearly in this cold weather her owners leave her locked outside for so long they don't even notice she's missing.

I tried to make a report to the RSPCA but without an address, they won't take a report. I asked the dog's vet to call the RSPCA to give them the owner's address (because they obvs won't give it to me) but they are being difficult about it and not even wanting to get involved that much. I feel I must do something to help this poor creature. Does anyone know how to find an address using only a mobile phone number?

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I just finished the Jakarta Method and it left me genuinely dismayed. Not like, astounded with how horrible it all was (I knew it was going to be horrible), but more, it made me put the book down and sit with my feelings of dismay. A little bit nauseous, unsettled, feeling a loss of hope for a lot of ideals I hold.

What a horrible period of history, in a century absolutely full of horrible periods.

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