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How can people so mean? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting with someone else) someone replied after some time "wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else". That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there's some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

“wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else”.

... I don't get it? How's that mean?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I mean, I am maybe somewhat sensitive, but its just an unnecessary comment when other person doesn't know you personally, I am already used to getting trash on the internet, never received comment like that before even in HS when the other person clearly knows you personally.
Maybe I should add that the whole chat was just me and another sophmore

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I also don’t see how it’s mean. Why don’t you two private chat tho

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I mean its just not common to private chat, I guess it could be interpreted as not mean, but still kinda of uncalled for

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I mean this in no insult to you, but college students are basically bigger high school students. They rarely consider how they make others feel. I wouldn’t mind it no matter how you take it. On campus I’m often surprised how undergrads act to one another.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Its not an insult, I would agree that I was naive/too sensitive, it was just unexpected and bummer that I wasn't prepared for in a more grown up environment (maybe this is the correct term)?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I think you were maybe expecting a more grown up environment and you didn't get one. I'm a Phd Candidate and people can still be so random in how they speak to others. I too can easily get annoyed at such. Maybe we are both sensitive, but others rarely considers how they speak affects those around them.