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Hell no. So many people think "it's not real, you just need to try harder", or they think "it's real, so I need to look even closer for any mistakes or sloppiness" and develop confirmation bias
If you need accommodations, I would go through HR, and I'd probably wait until after the fact even if that weakens your legal protections
I might confide in my boss eventually, but probably by telling them without telling them - I'll tell them my brain works in a weird way, that I need to walk to process information, that I need music/videos playing in the background because it actually helps my focus
Regardless, I've even been warned off by older co-workers (I failed a drug test for my meds, even though I brought the bottle) who said even if it's illegal some people will try to get rid of me anyways
That bloody confirmation bias.
I was a model employee for many years. Every review was, "you're one of our brightest, keep doing what you're doing". Then I requested some accommodations for my chronic migraines, and they put me under a microscope. Suddenly I was still getting the most complex work because I was the only person they trusted to do it, but now it was an issue that I didn't churn through change requests as fast as other employees who only do simple bug fixes.
When I got diagnosed with ADHD I thought it would give me some breathing room if I told them. That just made it worse. Now I had to be on a management plan. Now every review was laser focused in churn rate, and completely ignored all my above-and-beyond contributions.
I think their long term plan was to either make me give up accommodations or leave, because they didn't want anyone else thinking they could get "special treatment".
Sounds like a shit place to work for. Hopefully, you found somewhere better.
It was pretty good before all that happened. I've moved on now though, because it wasn't going to improve and the culture was generally going in the wrong direction.