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Why are some people's emotions not valid? And related questions. (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by dingus@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.ca

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My entire life, I have always been told that I am "overemotional", "overreacting", etc. to any given situation. Whenever anything bad is happening to me or someone else, I am not supposed to respond or react because it makes me "overdramatic". I don't understand how people just stand by and let assholes be assholes either to themselves or to others. I am never ok with that and I get frustrated at injustices. But it has gotten me into trouble my entire life.

Why is it that my feelings are less valid than others? Why am I supposed to let people walk all over me? Why don't I matter?

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[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

When someone comments on your emotions, I would advise telling them you dont take notes on how you do or should feel and that you won't be involved with people who feel the need to manage other people's emotions.

But you have to be prepared to walk away. People who do this kind of stuff betray their own striving for power and control of others and its likely similar to how they were raised. None of that is your problem or imperative to address, you must learn to be an example second and well first which can only be done when you are able to listen to your body and mind in the face of a ~~adverse~~ non-first-party (anyone thats not You) insisting you need to trust them and not yourself.