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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 week ago

A slightly different way of looking at it is hot anger Vs cold anger.

Hot anger is the obvious "angry" stereotype. It's built on adrenaline, and often used to counter fear. Cold anger is a willingness to do an unpleasant, but necessary job. It has aspects of hot anger, but they are subservient to the goal. You might still be afraid, but it's controlled and focused.

Protecting someone is generally a cold anger. You have a goal and an opponent to be either driven off, or disabled. Their own health irrelevant.

Hot anger has you beating the shit out of them, while your grandmother bleeds out. Cold anger is leaving them with a quick shattered knee, from your first kick, while moving on to first aid.