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Exactly which nuance is important in this context?
You see, when some motherfucker you don't know wants to fuck your girl, that's BAD! When it's ya homies, it's chill.
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Women are human beings that should have autonomy to do as they please. And they're not "yours" or anybody else's but their own selves. (Women, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)This is 100% true, for anyone (obviously excepting it doesn't infringe on others, such as murder for example), but also its okay for people to have boundaries and for you to compromise within those boundaries, assuming you want to be with the person more than you care about the boundary they have.
Now whether such a thing should be a boundary is another question, but if it's normal to, for example, not want your partner to cheat and have that as a boundary, we can at least agree its okay for boundaries to exist at all within a relationship, and that it isn't necessarily infringing on your autonomy as a person for your partner to have them.
There are however definitely boundaries that should be considered a red flag, and for many people this may be one of them. That's fine, and it's fully your choice to decide whether you accept a boundary, just as some people may only want an open relationship, and so "no 'cheating' of any form" would be a boundary they wouldn't accept, despite being common.
Fully agree.
IMO cheating is by definition something your partner does not want. Defining cheating as a certain set of actions that everyone agrees on independent of the relationship is a dead end. If you instead define cheating as "knowingly violating your partner's boundaries" (and make sure to talk about those boundaries!), everything becomes so much easier