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[–] [email protected] 212 points 5 days ago (3 children)

A lot of Americans don’t have a private area outside of their car

I can’t tell you how many of my telehealth therapy clients meet me from their car because they don’t have a truly private space in their own home. I actually can tell you, it’s like 40-50% depending on when you ask me

[–] [email protected] 75 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I've had telehealth appointments in the car because I'm using a break from work to make the appointment. It's bizarre that our society expects us to work 9-5, but also expects us to somehow get every necessary appointment done within that same time frame. I'm not given enough time off to run home and come back, so an appointment in the car it is.

But your point stands true. My boyfriend has a telehealth call every weekend. Our tiny apartment doesn't offer much privacy, so he gets the living room (where the computer is) while I either stay in the bedroom, or go out somewhere for an hour to give him space.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

It's bizarre that our society expects us to work 9-5, but also expects us to somehow get every necessary appointment done within that same time frame.

Sure, but anything offered outside the 9-5 window is someone who has to adjust their hours so that it's more convenient to people who work the standard 9-5. That's why the places that tend to be open outside the 9-5 window are the ones that tend to employ the lowest-paid people. Gas stations, convenience stores, etc.

The best paid 9-5 jobs also offer employees the freedom to visit the doctor, dentist, kid's school, etc. whenever they need to, no questions asked. It's basically a perk that you only get if your skills are rare enough that employers have to offer it or the talent will go elsewhere. If we wanted more people to have those perks, the way to achieve it would be the same way that the 9-5 workday was created: powerful unions and violent strikes.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'd think the bathroom would be anotherboption.

Yiu can take the ham radio license exam over Zoom now, but you need to be in a closed room to imply you're not being coached. The evaluators said I was far from the first to do it in the loo.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 5 days ago (4 children)

If you can't ask family for a private space for an hour long therapy session, chances are you won't feel safe/private in the bathroom either. Maybe you don't want them to know you're in therapy. Much less sus it you're just out of the house for an hour.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 days ago

To add to this, life can be noisy. If you have multiple people working from home and pets, it’s hard to get a quiet time when it’s convenient for you. You can’t ask me to be quiet, if I have meetings scheduled all day so you can’t ask film a food review video.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This one does come up too though but less often. At least once the person made toilet sounds and I had to end the session early as they were clearly taking a shit and I was uncomfortable proceeding

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

As if your job isn't tough enough! Good on you for setting that boundary.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

Ugh, this is so true. My mom started going to therapy in 2020 (after her own mom died of Covid), and she's been keeping it a secret from my dad all this time. When I lived with them, my mom would schedule telehealth calls for when my dad was out of the house and asked me to let her know if he was coming home early.

Honestly, my dad's a smart guy and I don't doubt he'd be understanding of therapy if she talked to him about it - I never got any "anti-therapy" messages from him. But my mom's anxiety is deep-set from her childhood, and although I would handle the situation differently with my own partners, I'm at least glad she's talking to a professional.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

It was less about formal privacy and more "here's a room that licks so people won't barge in accidentally"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Yep. Telehealth often involves me or partner wearing headphones too in order to make sure we don't overhear the other's session