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First, don't tell me that the answer is just to "not bottle things up", because that's objectively incorrect too. Society doesn't want you to have any negative emotions. I need to know how to not express negative emotions at all whatsoever unless I'm alone. I know it can be done because it is done in many other people on the planet.

Edit: Ok so I think one of the things I want to try doing next is ask for a med change from my psych provider.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (13 children)

It is not super common, but it's common enough that my friend takes notice. The issue is that I occasionally explode at work which is not good for my job security. Generally if someone is being mean to me or my fellow coworkers I get upset. My supervisor is also a huge bitch who is rude and mean to everyone and I have a hard time dealing with her at times. Most of the times I am able to shut up, but sometimes I get upset with people like that and I react inappropriately.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 3 days ago (10 children)

I have a pretty stressful job. I've been doing it for almost twenty years. I have not "exploded at work" once. Not ever.

This isn't an "expressing emotions isn't okay" problem, man.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (9 children)

Have you never had anyone bully you or others at work? I'm glad to hear it, man, but we aren't all that lucky. My coworkers handle it better than me, but I'm also picked on a bit more than them.

This is the first time the bully at work also happens to be my supervisor. I have been able to handle workplace bullies in the past by interacting with them minimally, but I can't do that when it involves my supervisor.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

I'm not sure why you are getting down voted so hard for this. You are describing a very direct awful relationship thats unavoidable. Sort of like an abusive parent.

I would advise you try to find another job, or if you can move laterally in the company that might get you to a different supervisor.

Also, your supervisor can go fuck themselves in their own face.

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