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people have been demonizing it for most of the AD years i think but it's quite pleasant really. are there any proven negative effects?

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Christianity and Feminism.

[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Most of the different waves of feminisms are actually quite vocal about masturbation being a positive thing regardless of gender.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Feminists infamously had a moral panic about pornography in the 1970's as adult theaters and the nascent home video porno market started to take off.

They predicted porn would condition men to expect sex on demand and sexual assault rates would skyrocket when in fact the opposite happened.

You see this same moral panic from feminists regarding AI girlfriends and you there's a rising fundamentalist strain of feminism that still says porn is dangerous.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

They predicted pron would condition men to expect sex on demand and sexual assault rates would skyrocket when in fact the opposite happened.

Reminds me of "computer games turns teenagers into killer machines" saying.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The current 3rd/4th wave feminism finds male sexual pleasure very abhorrent. If you can find anything in the mainstream discourse coming from a feminist that says otherwise please share.

Feminists can't even agree to be against circumcision which is clearly genital mutilation.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Thats just not true my dude, there is nothing about feminist thought that says that male pleasure is abhorrent. To think so shows a lack of understanding of feminism...

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Feminism suffers from being very broad. There are a lot of conflict viewpoints living under the umbrella of feminism and people saying that their interpretation is the correct one. And there ate a bunch of waves of feminism too, each one a bit different.

So there are absolutely feminists who are anti male. They may be a loud fringe minority, but they're there.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

But I'm talking about mainstream feminism in the public discourse right now. Think the "Barbie" movie. Male sexuality is very clearly depicted a inherently dangerous which is core mainstream feminist belief.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

Did you actually watch the movie or just regurgitating a viewpoint someone else claimed the movie was about.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I haven't seen the movie. How does it depict make sexuality as inherently dangerous?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Barbie is immediately sexually harassed several times upon first interacting with human men.

Also see "Wonder Woman '84" for more examples which was directed by a feminists with explicitly feminists ideology.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd like to point out that toxic masculinity is not the same thing as male sexuality. One can be criticised without the other being condemned.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Ironically though, I could see how a misogynist might conflate the two.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Feminism suffers from being very broad.

Bah dum tiss 🥁

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I won't disagree that there are definitely anti-men feminists, but there have also been anti-bi feminists, and currently there are anti-trans feminists. But none of them are worth discussing when talking about feminism as a whole because they really don't apply. Those are ideologies that should be tackled independently, and should not be considered representative of the movement in general.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Okay, post some mainstream feminist discourse that says otherwise. Highly influential feminists like Dworkin go as far as saying that any sexual intercourse with men is sexual assault.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"She is often said to argue that "all heterosexual sex is rape", based on the line from the book that says, "Violation is a synonym for intercourse." However, Dworkin has denied this interpretation, stating, "What I think is that sex must not put women in a subordinate position. It must be reciprocal and not an act of aggression from a man looking only to satisfy himself. That's my point."[1]"

Second paragraph on wikipedia...

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (8 children)

First, Dworkin has never said that and did not think that.

Second, she died almost twenty years ago my dude. Intercourse was published in '87 during the second wave of feminism. Why are you misquoting her as an example of current mainstream discourse? And even if we're going to be talking about feminist views of the 80's, you're conveniently ignoring sex-positive feminism. The sex wars were like, the defining feminist debate of that era.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

This is exactly my point. This is a harsh misunderstanding at what she was getting at...

She is saying that the reality of sex for the vast majority of history has been about men dominating women, not interested in satisfying the women involved, but someone already covered that point.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Got caught beating it at work, eh?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't find downplaying the gentital mutation of innocent babies funny. I'm not sure why feminists do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Downplaying the nonsense that you tried to make more palatable by putting it next to actual issues and hoping you could use it to misdirect when you got called out, while also pointing out your completely untrue claims betray that you got justly called out for some IRL bad behavior and want to blame feminists for creating a social norm where that behavior is no longer tolerated.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Christianity I can understand, but would you mind explaining why you think feminism demonizes masturbation?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Feminism demonizes male sexuality.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (7 children)

See, that’s really interesting to me! The mainstream feminist spaces I’ve interacted with have been very sex-positive, so I’m curious how you’ve experienced this demonization.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Sex positive for women collectively, not for men as a whole.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (10 children)

That’s not an explanation you just restated the claim they asked you to elaborate on. What have you encountered that led you to this conclusion?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Not really.

Feminism embraces openness in society, including walking your own path.

If that includes deviating from cis male sexuality, then yes, feminism does indeed allow that to happen, if it happens naturally. In other words: feminism does not force you to take part in the toxic masculinity circlejerk.

In that way, yes, feminism probably reduces the amount of "male sexuality" which is basically toxic masculinity in the world. But it does not force that change, instead, it lets it happen.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

My ass. Yes, maybe some inviduals do, but feminism itself does not. Feminists only 'demonize' male sexuality when it starts turning into treating us as walking fleshlights.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I believe feminism has an issue with how women are portrayed in pornography and how that can influence men's views and expectations of women.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I seriously doubt it causes either of those. Source?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

How many anti-masturbation feminists do you know personally?

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