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MSc Mansplaining (mander.xyz)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I never help a female coworker who needs assistance or guidance cause I'll just be accused of mansplaining. So I let them drown and get called an asshole who doesn't help so you lose either way.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 9 months ago (2 children)

If only there was a way of helping without being condescending or immediately assuming oneself to be more knowledgeable or capable on a topic with nothing to base it on other than physical appearance.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Perhaps you could even ask if they want help first. Crazy idea.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago

let's not get too extreme here

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

What's wrong with asking?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago

you tell me, since you said you'd rather not help at all

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I’ll just be accused of mansplaining

Have you actually been accused, or are you afraid of being accused? Because in reality, most people don't give two shits about the idea of "mansplaining".

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

I'm a different person than the one you've responded to, but I've actually been accused.

I am into weird shit and have ADHD like a bitch so I will often excitedly talk about my interests, or a story involving them, which are sometimes fairly niche and I know I need to explain whatever I am saying to whoever I'm talking to, because I know they don't know the ins and outs of X. I had an ex accuse me of mansplaining and said she'd prefer if I wait for her to ask before I explain something. Alright, fair enough, I mean I'd say I'm ADHDsplaining because I enjoy our conversations but I can work on that. So I complied with her request, a couple months go by, and she tells me I she hates the way I just assume she knows everything and will just breeze past terms like Castle Nut and Endplate without explaining them. She then didn't like when I explained that she asked me to do literally exactly that in very gendered terms.

I guess I'm just too neurodivergent for all this "other people" business.