[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Always has been.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I was hoping that's how it came across, since that's what happened. So thank you for the confirmation.

I've never been much for dating significantly younger women, since they're usually a bit unpredictable. By the time my SO and I got together, we were established in our careers and just looking for someone that wouldn't constantly stir up drama. Our relationship has thankfully been extremely drama free. If there's a problem we talk about it like the adults we are.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

True. I made an assumption, you have a point.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

You're not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.

I'm a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I'm not the best looking guy out there but I'm certainly not the worst either... And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people's attention, romantically.

[-] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago

I accidentally ended up with a very young lady. I know how this will sound, and all I can do is assure everyone that, at least for my part, everything I say is the absolute truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

I went to college late, I was 23 by the time I applied to college, and turned 24 shortly after starting classes. My birthday is in the first quarter, or so, of the year.

Anyways. I think I was in my second year of college when I met this girl, I don't even remember how I met her honestly; it wasn't a dating app, those things barely existed at the time and I haven't ever used one; I just haven't seen the need... Anyways, everything seems cool, she's telling me she's 17 and has a bday coming up. At this point I'm 24/25, and I'm thinking that's a bit young, but since she's basically 18 at this point, I don't really see a problem with it.... Anyways, birthday happens, Yay, and life goes on. After a few months as things get more and more complicated, as happens in most relationships, I come to find out that her birthday, was her 17th birthday, she was 16 when we met. I'm suddenly very not ok with everything.

It didn't last super long after that. She was also preggo with her exes kid and never told me. The relationship was only like 5-6 months long. She lost the kid, I believe it was a miscarriage, and I'm sad for her that happened, but too much weird bullshit and deception was happening so I called it off.

She wasn't a good person. She's on a short list of exes I don't talk to anymore. Most of my exes I still consider good friends, even if I haven't seen them in a long time. I'm in a stable, long term relationship with a more age appropriate partner, for... Gosh, it has to be 10 years now? Time flies. There's.... 6? ish years between our ages, and we met when I was 30-something.... I'm much happier now. Heh.

[-] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago

What an idiot.

Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?

Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

I don't dislike the idea of state/government subsidies for essentials. Most of that is already in place for many first world countries, in some way, shape, or form.

The problem I have with it is that you need to qualify for the assistance. So you need this whole complicated application and approval system, oversight to ensure that it's not being taken advantage of, either by the would-be clients, nor the administrative staff managing it, and then that needs to go into paying for housing and whatnot for eligible people, and yatta yatta.

All of that overhead goes away with UBI. Everyone gets it. There's no disability, no employment insurance, no disability benefits, nothing. If you have citizenship, you get UBI. The amount of UBI deducts from your regular work earnings, so businesses, and the rich are paying the majority of the ubi payouts, and the system is both simplified and streamlined. If you lose your job, or you need to be out of work for a while due to sickness, injury or other issue, no problem, you still get UBI, and nothing changes. You don't need to apply for disability or short term medical benefits because you now can't work, because that amount is your UBI.

Additionally, UBI should be tied to the cost of living and/or inflation, as costs rise, so does UBI.

In this way, you dramatically lower the administrative costs and overhead from running such a program, and citizens have peace of mind that they will always be able to afford the basics. Mainly rent, and food.

The market provides all of that to them, rather than needing a complex and approval based benefit system to provide it instead.

It's so hard to describe how many government services would end up getting folded into UBI. The obvious ones are unemployment services and/or welfare, disability benefits, both for long term and short term disabilities any bursaries or grants given to people for short duration assistance. A huge segment of government work would no longer be needed. And yeah, some of those people will end up unemployed, some will shift over to UBI work.... To their benefit, all those freshly unemployed workers have UBI now, so they don't need to worry about applying for unemployment benefits, they just need to focus on finding new employment if they choose to.

I could rant about it all day. I'll stop here.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago

No no no. We know. We also know that there's SFA we can do about it because our government has long since been bought and paid for by the very same people who "generously" "give" us the opportunity to slave away generation profit for them and their shareholder friends, so they can be rich and get richer, while we barely scrape by with the scraps they convince us is from their generosity.

Government long since abandoned us, ever since the boomers stopped caring about unions, which is around the same time they were all making shitloads of money as senior management, and unions actually started to harm their ability to make more money.

Goodbye unions, goodbye decent working conditions and reasonable, transparent wage schedules. Goodbye to the middle class....

Shits fucked, we're all to busy fighting amongst ourselves, trying not to starve, and screaming over the Epstein files to figure out that we need to band together to fix this shit.

I know why you all want to see the Epstein shit, but here's a spoiler, pretty much everyone with any money, power, or influence, is on the fucking list, and if they're not, they should be, because they've been raping the rest of us for a good long time now.

[-] [email protected] 38 points 4 days ago

IMO, that's the problem. You have to earn a living. As in, you don't deserve one, you have to earn one.

It's not that you'll do without any nice-to-haves if you don't work, you'll do without everything if you don't work. You will literally starve and die.

That's what's fucked up to me. If you're just like, I don't want to work for a while.... Then GFL feeding yourself.

So anyways, I support UBI.

[-] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago

My SO put it perfectly when I apologized for talking too much, she said "it's ok, I know you like to listen to yourself"

And honestly, I do talk to myself when nobody's around and there isn't a huge difference in what I'm saying in either context.

I'm not having a conversation with myself, I'm just kind of thinking out loud.

[-] [email protected] 22 points 4 days ago

According to xitter, if the woman is very muscular, then yes.

I don't quite understand why though.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

In this example image, those be some "earth" colors. Used to be a big thing. Lots of dark green, dark yellows, oranges and browns.

And they liked that.

It's a whole vibe. I don't know who vibes with that, but it definitely has a vibe.

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banned? (lemmy.ca)
submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

This is probably more of a Lemmy specific thing than what's normal on this community, but I posted on a community from lemmy.ml and the mods there banned me from the community.

They didn't remove my post or message me about it. I only found out because when I was going through replies, I couldn't reply and I noted that my account is banned from that community.

I wasn't saying anything untoward or encouraging anyone to do anything illegal or anything like that. It was a comment about systems of government. I don't believe I put any emphasis on whether one was better than another, but the post was in a non-political community; so it should not lean one way or the other on the matter, and the post I was replying to introduced the political discussion, so I was on-topic.

The specifics aren't super important. What I want to know is whether there's a built-in system to inquire with the mods or something to try to get an official reply as to what rules they believe I had broken to deserve a ban, and whether that ban is permanent or not. I tried simply messaging one of the mods, but it's been hours with no reply.

Is there any way to find the information? Previously on Reddit, I would almost always get a message from the subreddit about what happened, what violation caused it, and allowed me to message the mods to try to argue my case, though, me getting banned on that platform was quite rare. This is my first time knowingly being removed like this and I don't understand the process here.

Can anyone enlighten me about how these things are supposed to work on Lemmy?

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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

The 1.0 release date was officially announced as September 10th!

Also something about a toilet.

Mark your calendars!

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submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

So, I just need to rant for a minute about what's just happened. It's made me feel fairly disposable as a worker. I work in I.T. support. I help people who can't operate technology with highly complicated issues. I am highly skilled, well trained and I have a diverse set of understanding for technical issues.

Last year I took a new job. The old job was an MSP, or Managed Service Provider; if you don't know what that is; an MSP is the IT department for companies too small to have an IT department. That's the summary. The new company is both an MSP and an ISP as well as just about everything else you can imagine for IT.... hosting webpages, and all the associated nonsense, phones/VoIP, colocation (Datacenter stuff).... everything. Basically, when someone was signed onboard with this employer, we did it all.

Starting out, everything seemed fairly normal, a bit more involved, since we do more than the last company, but nothing too crazy. The part that irked me, is that as MSP, we own a client, we do everything for them, including, but not limited to all their computer/server/network work (which I expected), but also their phones, internet service, hosting, email, etc. everything.... which is a bit more than I expected, but I was managing okay.

In March/April, things changed in my personal life, where I was having to drive my SO to work (she doesn't have her license, and we don't live in a place where she can reliably get a taxi/bus/other transportation), the problem is that her work is 3-11, where I work 9-5, in another city. So I tried to work with my workplace but they wouldn't let go of working from the office, so I ended up on an insane schedule of commuting to the office (over an hour drive each way), then leaving the office at 1PM, to be home for 2PM, to get her to work for 3PM, then GOING BACK TO WORK. I wasn't able to keep up with my workload.... in addition, I'm driving her home at 11, getting home at midnight, then getting up at 5-6AM to get a shower and do it all over again. I couldn't sustain that for any reasonable length of time, and I burned out. My doctor issued a notice to my workplace that I am unable to continue working for the time being, they accepted it and I went on disability as of early may, until now.

Currently, I feel much better, compared to when I was burning out in April, and I feel a lot better about going back. The SO has also been working on getting her license and her own car, so within a few months I won't have to even think about whether she can get to work or not, since she will have a car and her license to drive herself there. A week or two ago, I contacted my workplace to let them know I was ready to return. We had a few emails back and forth to resolve the matter of the doctors recommendation and disability diagnosis. Once all that was completed, I thought I was ready to go. Big nope.

I got word yesterday that instead of bringing me back, they're laying me off.

So not only did they have the callous attitude to force me to drive to the office and back several times a day to try to maintain a poor life scenario (I asked to WFH, which they absolutely could do, since they did it over COVID without significant issues).... but when I burned out as a result of their ridiculous demands, and took some time off, instead of welcoming me back and holding my position, they filled in the gap while I was out on disability, and laid me off when I was able to return.

I feel so abandoned. I won't complain about "where's the loyalty" because there's never been a time in my career where "loyalty" has ever been something I've felt that my workplace ever gave me; and all evidence I've seen says that companies have zero loyalty to anyone. Maybe one day in the past that was true, but it's definitely not been true for the entirety of my working career; but here I am, a highly skilled individual, with specific skills that will absolutely help the company succeed, that they know I have, that they're just going to throw away... and for what?

The excuse they gave me was financial downsizing, but it's a company of about 12-18 people, so it's not like my job was part of a larger dismissal of people, they've lost, laid off, or otherwise shed employees at a very slow rate. Some of my (now former) coworkers have said that several people who have voluntarily left their positions, have been replaced during my time away; but me? no. Apparently my knowledge isn't worth enough to them.

I'm currently on the hunt for a new employer. IMO, these guys are fools to throw away everything I know. The only challenge I face right now is finding someone who will see my value. IT support jobs are usually underpaid in my local area, and too many companies are going return to office and I'm not easily able to find remote (WFH) type employment. The jobs are there, but it's hard to find one that's worth my time. The core issue IMO, with the low pay, is that it's a non-union position, but if I can find a union job, I'm all in.

Wish me luck!

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submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Looking for some advice here, I'm out to complete two things:

  1. restore saves from the games I played using the stock firmware to GarlicOS
  2. get two player/two controllers working for couch gaming over HDMI

Specifics: I picked up a 16G microSD for the OS, and a 64G for ROMs, pulled the original (kinda garbage) SD and replaced it with the 16G that I loaded with GarlicOS. I copied the relevant roms that I loaded onto the original SD to the new set and moved the save files ( .sav) over to the saves folder in the relevant subfolder. Launching the game results in a blank save. I can't continue the save.

For dual controller/two player, I haven't tested HDMI yet (on the list) I'm just trying to get controllers working at the moment; I have an Anker USB 3 hub. What works right now, is if I plug my Stadia controller in, it gets picked up, no problem. but my xbox controller will mess everything up. If I just do my OTG adapter to the stadia controller, it works, OTG to hub to stadia, no problem. If I either go OTG to the xbox controller, or OTG to hub to controller, it does not come up in GarlicOS. If I plug OTG to hub to both controller, neither shows up. I added waitForUSB (I also tried waitforUSB) file to the OS SD card, with no effect (the file still exists).

With stock, I was able to use a controller (just the stadia controller), over USB OTG with HDMI, so I know that works, and it should still work. The Xbox Controller I'm using is almost brand new, it's an XBOX One controller, connected by a USB A to C cable, I picked up 10ft cables from Anker for the purpose. I'm fine with wired, but I also have a USB xbox wireless dongle for PC that I can't seem to find right now, and I'm wondering if that would do any better (and I would prefer this since it would be wireless).

Does anyone have any hits or tricks or information related to this that I can use to push this along? is the new series of xbox controllers not compatible? do I need to change the drivers or something to make it work better? I'm new to retroArch, and GarlicOS, and the 35xx is my first dedicated retro handheld. I'm refreshingly not new to linux or SBC's, so I'm very comfortable with making changes and taking chances. All my saves are archived on that original SD card, and I have a backup on my laptop, so I'm not worried about losing saves or data at all. If the controllers are not viable, I'm sure I can find something that works and pick that up, maybe something from 8bitdo.

Thanks in advance.

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submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Two subreddits I used to be very active in were for techsupport and networking/home networking. Anyone know if there's Lemmy communities for the same?

Also, related, is there a way to list communities available from a specific instance? Like if I wanted to see all communities local to Lemmy.world or something (that's not my local instance), can I do that? If so, how?

I'm still getting used to the fediverse way of doing things, I love it here, I'm just having trouble getting myself up to speed relative to all that I was subscribed to on Reddit.

TIA

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offboard zwave (lemmy.ca)
submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Hello Lemmings.

This is something I've been thinking about for a while; basically, I want to move my zwave node away from my main HomeAssistant system.

I'll try to be brief; my current config is a single mini/micro system (Dell, I believe), Core i5, 8G RAM and an SSD, it's a ton of power for HA and massive overkill, I know. The problem is that the system is located in a remote room of the house, so the signal isn't exactly the best and I have some nodes that are linked through 2-3 other devices; I'd like to move the USB Z-stick to a more central location, and I don't think a USB extension is going to cut it. I have ethernet wire which is far more viable to get a connection across to the HA computer. I don't want to move the HA computer away from where it is, since there's backup power where it is; so my idea would be to use something like a Raspberry Pi (now that availability seems to be improving), connected by Ethernet using PoE (for power availability from the UPS). Provided I can get a Raspberry Pi, and all the related and required parts together, which should be fairly trivial; how would I connect the zwave dongle on the Raspberry Pi to the computer running homeassistant?

I haven't considered this before due to the pi being so difficult to get since I put together the homeassistant system. Ideally, I would want several of these systems placed at key points around the house so that I wouldn't need any of the zwave nodes to relay communications, but that's future plans more than anything - I would need to source several zwave dongles and get them all on raspberry pi's and get them working together.... So going about it towards that end would be a bonus; but at least I want to do some research on it and figure out if I can even relocate the dongle at all first. Any infromation to that end is appreciated.

I'm currently using ZWaveJS UI.

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