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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Mounahad on 2023-08-18 14:46:17+00:00.
Hello everyone, i'm writing here cuz i'm really lost and don't know what to believe or do anymore. So i've met this guy on bumble a month and half ago. We went of 8 or 9 dates already, all initiated by him, the first 4 dates we had were really fun but i was a bit confused cuz he never expressed any type of romantic interest towards me and i didn't know if he was interested in me romantically or was just hanging out with me as a friend.
During the 4th date he tried to kiss me when we were saying goodbye, i kinda froze because i wasn't expecting it and it didn't happen. When he got home he texted me saying that he didn't want to make me uncomfortable and that i'm a smart and funny girl and he wants to be more than just friends. I said that i was just surprised because he never verbally expressed interest in me begore trying to kiss me and that i'm not against the idea of being more than friends as long as we take time to get to know each other more and know what we're really looking for (cuz we never discussed this before).
We went on 4 other dates that just looked like the ones we had before, aka like 2 friends hanging out with each other except when he tries to have some physical contact with me while teasing me, but no direct flirting or direct "i like you" or direct compliments.
Now we haven't met for 2 weeks cuz i'm away from the city we live in and i'll be back in a week. But he seems so cold through texts. He always been a bad texter, like he used to text me 4 to 5 texts a day. But like now he barely responds any of my texts even though he's online several times a day. It takes him 24 hours to just respond to 1 text.
Plus those texts are really about random stuffs and nothing flirty or showing interest of whatever.
So i'm kinda confused because when we're face to face he seems quite interested and he always ask to meet again and go on another date. But lately through texting he isn't putting on any efforts at all and i don't know if i should just give it time or move on already cuz i don't feel like he's meeting my emotional needs.
Thank you for ur opinion in advance.
Tl;dr : i've met this guy on bumble and went to 8 or 9 dates with him already, he seems very interested when we're face to face. Now that i've been gone for 2 weeks, he seems so cold through texting and barely respond to my texts.