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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Sykotic71 on 2023-08-18 18:12:51+00:00.
I’ve known my (23M) friend (24F) for around 2 years. Recently I’ve come to the realization that our friendship is getting more and more one sided, and it’s pretty obvious she doesn’t really see me as a close friend anymore.
We talk regularly but I feel like she only reaches out for emotional support, and I’m getting tired of only existing for that purpose. Many times it feels like once whatsapp is closed I don’t exist anymore, and that I am merely an imaginary friend. I want a friendship where we do fun stuff together as well but she never really reaches out anymore. The only times we’d see each other is if she really has no other options lol.
The realization really hit me when she came to my area and didn’t reach out even once or mention that we could hang out, even thought she reached out to literally all her other friends, even ones who aren’t as close. So after hearing that I decided I can’t deal with this shit, I don’t want to invest in someone who sees me as a backup or punching bag.
However, I’ve been feeling really down and have been feeling a lot of FOMO for some reason. Im not very secure about my friendships and now I just feel depressed that I’m losing a friendship that I cared about a lot. How do I get over this friendship and just stop giving a fuck? I hate the fact that I even care so any advice would go a long way for me.
TL;DR I finally realized one of my friendships is really one sided, but it’s making me really sad and I feel left out. How do I move on from this?