Greentext

Feeling lonely sucks, but man, whenever I'm listening to some people talk about past relationships they've been in, I end up feeling happy it hasn't happened yet.

I blame my parents. They have such an amazing mutually respectful, supportive and loving marriage that it has set an impossible standard for me to realize.

I wish media depicted more healthy relationships.

Half of people don't seem to even have an idea of what mundane everyday loving behaviour actually looks like. And the other half does know, but fetishise unhealthy bullshit. (TBH I do too, but I want to engage in it playfully, not full on I will now proceed to straight up destroy you emotionally that I've run into with some people. )

Who is y'all datin

Ain't that the damn truth.

I've always been lucky to have partners and friends that were awesome about physical comfort and affection. But there's been times they weren't available, and it's the worst damn feeling to need that damn hug when you're falling apart, and not having it.

It's why I'll never, ever turn my back on someone needing it, even if I don't like them. Some things are just too damn important to hold back.

Its a green text, where everything is fake, as gay as can be, and we're all fags

Yeah, you're missing the meme of it all.

While it may seem counterintuitive, the 4chan meme of any post being gay helps. If everything is gay, there's nothing wrong with gay at all. Besides, have you got any close friends under about 30? The entire usage of gay as an insult has essentially disappeared because it's been reclaimed by young gay folks. They've successfully taken it and made it a positive thing.

Back maybe ten, fifteen years ago, what were then gay kids started using it in an ironic way. They'd be gaming or whatever, and someone would do something cool, and another would say, that's great, but you're totally gay. Back and forth like that.

Having grown up in an era where it was commonly an insult to be called gay, then seeing gay people gain access to their rights as fellow citizens, and then take old slurs and strip them of much or all of their power, it's beautiful. There was a time I would have made the same assumption you did. I'd have jumped all over someone saying the same thing.

But now? It's a celebration of gayness. It's saying that everything is gay, and that's fabulous as fuck. Gay isn't just okay, it's a thing we accept as commonplace.

When I use it in the context of greentext, it's recognizing that the assholes of 4chan lost. They didn't get to keep the word and use it as a bad thing. It got taken from the bigots after lifetimes of use as a word of oppression, and that's such a victory that it deserves celebrating by using it in this way.

Seriously, if you get a chance to hang around some younger LGBTQ people, take it. They're the generations raised where being "gay" isn't some horrible secret, it isn't a doom of shame that you have to hide at all times. You sit around, or go shooting with, or whatever, and these folks are just casual about it. Hell, I've run into groups that are using f×g the same way here and there. Not as common for sure, but it happens.

Obviously, if the context is such that it's being used as a slur, or even just derogatorily, the person doing so is an asshole. But that's the key, they aren't the ones with the power over the word now! The assholes and bigots are the ones that are treated with contempt and derision when they use the word. It really is fucking glorious, beautiful to see.

Man, I used to bounce at a drag club. I had to literally fight to keep the patrons safe from direct physical attack. Seeing the word gay become a term of endearment? I can't describe how happy that makes me. I hear my kid's gay friends laughing and throwing it around at school, openly and nobody bats an eye because the power of it too be used as a weapon is finally gone. It fills me with joy to have lived long enough to see it happen. I'm typing this and crying thinking about it.

They're gay, I'm gay, you're gay, everyone is gay, and it's fucking amazing :)

Tons of southern women would literally lose their entire identity if their patriarchy disappeared tomorrow

Yeah patriarchy is a system and it poisons us all. Never stop being open to being vulnerable. It's just unfortunate that some view it as weakness.

Masking to keep a relationship is not worth it. It makes you miserable and eventually you lose sight of who you are and just become the person you think others want you to be and feel empty inside. Or worse, it leads to self hatred and you end up lashing out at people.

Source: helping my partners overcome both sides of this....

Yeah, but that'd be living a lie and hiding your emotions. Which is less healthy than being single. Meeting someone that likes you is something that can be done conciously rather easily with the right steps - but it does require a strong will, a lot of human interaction and a bunch of time. It also requires investing in yourself - living healthy, happy and mindful.

Yeah I was fwb with a guy for a couple of years and it was very clear that one of the benefits he enjoyed most was using me as an unpaid therapist.

FRIENDS with benefits

JFC, what do you say when the friends that don't bang you come to with emotional problems, laugh in their face?